Author: Trudi Pavlovsky

Who here has ever set a News Year resolution (or two or three) and then by February you’ve completely dropped it as possible?

I’m raising my hand as I am guilty of that.

I can see now that my goals were waaaay too big, had no logical progression in my mind, and as I had never achieved or lived those outcomes I was actually fighting my own sense of self-preservation unconsciously.

They were NEVER going to happen.

And I used to feel like a failure, so in the end, I stopped setting serious New Years’ resolutions.

In all honesty why wait till the end of the year, became my inner dialogue?

But having said that after a year like 2020 I am ready to put in place actions over the coming five years, that I know to support the bigger vision I have for my life and its impact.

And that’s the key to succeeding when it comes to your big vision, vision, and purpose creation.

Inspired action AND small steps that lead you to your big outcomes.

I know for many, the pressure itself is also a block to action.

So ask yourself who is this goal really for?

Does it serve my best interest?

Am I acting from needing to prove something to others or from a deep desire to call in or create the action/outcome for my life?

And be comfortable with it being in your best interest before anyone else.

Now let’s look at a goal.

If you have a goal of having financial freedom, going straight to 10 million dollars in the bank when you have never had it before, your brain goes into rejection mode.

It feels unsafe, it can’t see how you got there so it sabotages your efforts.

Millionaires who go bankrupt, because they have had millions in the bank before can recover faster because of previous knowledge and experience around large sums of cash.

But do not despair.

If you can image it, you can create it.

Seeing the steps to get you there is as follows:

Believe it to be yours.

Start where you’re at and take steps to get started: $1,000 step to $5,000 step to $20,000 and as the amounts grow for you be open to miracles, money arriving from expected and unexpected sources and then start to quantum leap to the multiple six then seven figures.

And while seeing it, feel it.

Feel the money, the safety, freedom and what ever that financial goal means to you as feeling adds energy.

Sitting and wishing and hoping, is not a strategy.

Only a small percentage of people can manifest big amounts easily at the start.

So why not give yourself every opportunity by using your brain and body to support the beginning of the journey!

~ Trudi xxx

And if you’re keen to add more juice to the vision, join us for the Vision Board Challenge where Ill be taking you through the science, the energy and the process for setting up a vision board to support you to take the steps required towards having all your dreams come true.

Register here: https://bit.ly/VisionBoardChallengeWDF

Give yourself every chance of success for 2021

Anyone else get a little on edge around this time of year?

It’s ok, you are not alone and after the 2020 we’ve experienced I can image the pressure is on in new and interesting ways.

To be able to serve here are some tips for you to prepare for the day and then not only strive but to also ENJOY the day.

In the lead up to Xmas get clear on what you perceive the expectations to be.

💸Buying lots of presents that this year you don’t have the budget for?

👍🏻Having to be nice to that relative who ALWAYS wants to debate (which really means argue) with you about politics, feminism, the reality of existence, how you choose to live your life etc

🍽Eating food types or amounts you don’t normally eat to placate the cook because of all the effort they have gone to, to prepare the meal.

Take some time to list them out then decide – do you have to buy presents for every one?

Do you have to engage in conversations that stress and upset you?

Is speaking up for your preferences something you can do to honour your values?

Boundaries put in place BEFORE the big day to reframe YOUR presences and expectations takes the stress or pressure off before the big day.
When you speak up in the lead up, everyone knows what to expect on the big day.

🎁 Presents
Advise before and what your budget is this year/if you have decided to not purchase at all for certain people – Kris Kringle is that an opportunity instead.

And if people STILL bring you a gift and you have nothing with which to reciprocate, be ok with that. Gift giving is a LOVE LANGUAGE for many people so make sure you so them lots of love and appreciation.

😀 Being nice
Lay the ground rules. Let people know in fun ways in the lead up, what you are happy to discuss or to not discuss when the family comes together.

If someone still brings it up on the day, remind them of your preference and walk away.

🍭 Food
Talk to the cook before the big day. Let them know how much you value their preparation time but also let them know in advance how you want to manage your consumption on the day.

Get them on your side so if you choose to not eat the meat, or to save your food on a smaller size plate to mange your portion control, they can BACK YOU!

They will know it isn’t personal.

They will have the reason and information so you do not need to validate yourself on the day.

How they choose to respond in the conversation before hand and on the day, ultimately is up to them.

How you respond, is then up to you.

Look after yourself on the big day.

Decide what YOUR best outcome is, express it and stick to it.

This time of year is about love and self love and stress management on the day can be manage through the lead up.

I also know that everyone circumstances are different so let me know if you need help with managing anything else.

I recorded a live video on bringing your A-Game to business. While this was recorded for those in the direct selling industry, it doesn’t matter what your work or business is.

 

This covers the vision, purpose mindset, energy, and beliefs required to be successful.

Check it out on Youtube HERE, like my channel and come back and tell me what you think xxx

Also, today is DAY ONE of the VISION BOARD CHALLENGE, you can still join us so register HERE.

I really opened up to an old friend yesterday and shared with her how I felt that my closest friends from interstate had really forgotten me in this lockdown (her being one of them).

I felt super vulnerable in sharing that with her.

I mean I am the strong one, The Happiness Technician, the one everyone turns to in their times of need.

Surely, I would never feel sad, stressed or a little forgotten?

But, I had been feeling really sad the last week or so, about not hearing from my friends, while watching them go about their non lock down lives (oh hi Mercury retrograde).

I’m usually pretty chilled about it, but at this point I just wasn’t (hello period).

And then I sat with it, and realised what needed to shift with in my self.

The neediness. (Repelling the exact thing I desired, the connection from my old friends).

The control. (Hello shadow value, we can’t control others).

The stubbornness. (It’s not how many times someone has called in
comparison to how many times I have called, you can call them).

So I decided to let it go, and allow my friends to show up as they choose to and as they are. They are living their life and they have things happening.

I decided to be ok with it.

And the freedom in the letting go a miracle happened.

Three of them rang me this week.

Your lesson today is whats YOUR energy is in any situation? What are you allowing vs what are you attempting to force?

The friend I shared this with said she had been thinking of me but thought I’d be so busy, she didn’t want to interrupt me.

What can you lovingly release today?

And, do you have a friend who you think might be busy but might also like to hear from you?

Let them know you’re thinking of them xx

This world doesn’t want you to be happy. While I haven’t watched social dilemma yet, I’ve been around enough to understand that big business trades on pain and insecurity and social media gets more money the longer you’re online.

My most recent experience of this has surprisingly been with zoom. Before I get into my zoom experience, (for those of you that don’t know zoom is a video conferencing service), let’s talk about 2017 when I ran the CEO experience.

This was in part, teaching women to stop treating their businesses like a hobby and start treating them like the income creating machine that they could be.

One section was reviewing our time on social. It was something that I also did in the lead up to understand how much time was being wasted and why.
Snapchat at that time was a problem for me for two reasons. I was spending 16 hours plus a week on non-productive time on Snapchat.

Plus, I was only using photos taken on Snapchat and filtered to make me look younger in my marketing images.

It stopped being fun and about cute little ears and freckles and started to become a severe issue around how I viewed myself and my self-esteem.
So I made the decision to stop filtering my photos and start to really see myself for who I am.

Imagine my surprise when I am on zoom and see in the video filters the new light adjustments which now also take years off your age. Even with the setting dial down it’s still filters.

I’ve also noticed this with my iPhone 11, that the normal photo setting also has a softening effect on your face.

I think it would be interesting if you’ve met people on zoom to see what goes on in their head when they meet you in real life and you don’t look like that.

So how are we supposed to be happy within our own skin with who we are when every piece of technology whether consciously or unconsciously, it is programming us to believe that us on our own is somehow less?

And while I will do what it takes to look after myself, I use high-quality products for inner health and out of health, I still want to be able to see me when I look at an image compared to who I see every day in the mirror.

I even did a course in marketing that taught you on one side, to show up as your authentic self and be unashamedly you but also, heres a section on how to filter your photos?

What??

Do I have I solution to this?

I’m not really sure. I think awareness is definitely a start and cultivating joy from within so what’s being shown on the outer doesn’t create conflict and begins to match, but this is a reminder for all of us social media is not there to make us happy.

So spend time away and make sure you’re spending time cultivating your self-esteem, yourself love and your brilliance. to be able to say I’m feeling good about myself and not just from what you see in an image.

Photos below are me after my shower this morning, me with make up after my shower and my zoom screen shot.

Even though the photo after my shower this morning doesn’t quite match what I saw in the mirror, (thanks iPhone 11) it’s closer.
And yes while I use products to look after my self, I drink my collagen every day for inner health (with the bonus of helping the outer, I’ll be upfront about that), I use the best skin products, I take my vitamins etc, the drive behind it is different to three years ago.
I want total health.

Mental, emotional and physical.

I am no longer about fitting an image of what I think society deems acceptable. So no more flitters (as much as I can avoid them).

And that my friends, is the best place to be. I’ve never felt so happy in my own skin.

It took me time to get here.

I had to unravel the meaning and emotions I had placed on past experiences to allow healing to come through.

And not just forgiveness but appreciation for everything.

TBH I am still working on things that pop up here and there but at 46 I have never felt so good about myself and my life.

I’m still offering partial coaching scholarships for 2020 to help you get to the best space to start 2021.

Ask me how to apply!

It takes a special kind of lady to say she needs help.

You see most women have been raised with the belief that struggle and sacrifice needs to occur to prove worthiness.

That to be the last to receive has meaning for those receive before you. What it does is teach them that you are not worthy of being placed first.

We learn from our mothers, fathers, teachers, the previous generation and things can become so deeply embedded in each generation we can’t see whats in front of us.

We just accept it as what it is, how it has alway been.

I used to think this way too…

I broke myself into thousands of pieces, just to please others and was always left feeling empty and used.

It doesn’t nee to be this way.

You can have a wonderful life for yourself AND for those around you.

There is no either, or here.

You can have both!!

You’ve been friends with me for awhile now.

You’ve seen my ups and downs, heard of my struggles and you have also witnessed how I have overcome them.

I haven’t done it alone and you do not need to either.

Support is the difference between those that reach their dreams and go beyond what they dared hope for…..

……and those who stay small.

If you don’t have dreams and you’re living your dreams, I salute you.

But if you are not and you struggle and you are ready to say you want more.

NOW IS THE TIME!

Olympians become Olympians BECAUSE they have help.

You’re committed, dedicated and now you’re ready for unparalleled support.

I’ve got you. #strong

Book in a call with me to get clarity around how your most magnificent future can become yours.

Book your FREE call with me here: http://bit.ly/SuperChargeYourHappySesh

We all see those posts on the Internet that say, “do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life”.

The Venn Diagram that says “list what you do on one side, list what you love on the other side and get them to meet in the middle”.

Yay!!

It all sounds fabulous but when you do the list and you attempt to meet in the middle you just can’t take the action to go out do the thing that will make you happy.

What lists fail to explain is that you’re not lazy, doing what you do know or not doing anything new at all really means two things.

1. You’re safe where you’re at.
2. Your values are already being met, even if it feels like you aren’t showing up to your full potential.

So, when you look at these things and go I should do more of that but you find you can’t get off the couch or you’re busy reading lots of self-help books or business books but not taking any action, in your mind your needs are already being met and as the brain wants to keep you safe, it doesn’t let you expand out into new anymore exciting things.

It distracts you.

It keeps you on the couch.

It says, before you go and do things you need to read another book…

Your brain tells you, you don’t actually need to go and do anything else.

So, before you stop beating yourself up and punishing yourself and calling yourself names, understand that you need a values shift not another motivational talk that leaves you feeling pepped up for a few days but doesn’t actually create a lasting change for you.

So, if part of your brain is saying you want more let’s work together to get you where you know you really want to go.

Which is off the couch, taking NEW action and truly living a life you love, not just looking at a diagram thinking I wish.

If you want to talk to me about shifting values and how that will actually create change in your life that lasts, book in a call with me on the link in the comments to discuss.

I am still offering partial coaching scholarships until the end of the year so you have everything to gain and nothing to lose.

It’s totally obligation free and if booking a call feels too much, pop a heart in the comments and I will message you directly.

Recently I was cleaning kitty litter trays in the back yard and wacked my knee a beauty on the garden bed. As you can see in the photo it was hard and I will admit to cursing in a way a drunken sailor would blush.

The pain may have possessed me for a while…

This was my knee just after it happened.

When we feel pain, such as when we touch a hot stove, sensory receptors in our skin send a message via nerve fibres (A-delta fibres and C fibres) to the spinal cord and brainstem and then onto the brain where the sensation of pain is registered, the information is processed and the pain is perceived.

It’s easy to understand and we know we get past it eventually.

My knee is now able to be knelt upon and while bruised the physical pain has faded.

Much like emotional pain.

Let’s explore what emotional pain is it and why it lingers when there’s no physical damage.

What is emotional pain really?

Psychological pain, mental pain, or emotional pain is an unpleasant feeling of a psychological, non-physical origin.

Or heart break, disappointment, bitterness, regret to name a few examples, for the non-jargon approach.

Feelings that bring up old memories, things that linger and take a long time to fade away.

Living in the past of what you wished had of happened that didn’t. AND T.B.H may not have ended in the way you imaged they could have.

The beautiful thing about pain is that you do get better.

Bruises fade.

Cuts heal.

Bones knit together.

There may be days where the healing can feel worse than the original moment, (like my knee, how’s about those bruises five days later!) but when you allow the process of healing to take its course the emotional hurt subsides.

And just like a broken heart, the shock of not getting what you wanted or words spoken unkindly, while there may be scars, the wounds heal and the pain fades.

And one day, while the memories of the moment may rise up again, the pain will lessen and one day serve to be a reminder, a learning and the hurt no longer remains.

Just like my knee….. (lesson to not walk into garden beds)

I think it’s a rite of passage feeling judged when it comes to showing up on the internet especially when what you have to say is important.

Back when I first went into business, I used to work with teenagers but always had to discuss their signing up with their parents.

That set me up for a lot of judgement because I have never had children.

This got thrown in my face on more than one occasion!

If you ever had somebody turnaround and deliberately misunderstand you and what you stand for in your business, it’s frustrating.

You’re here to serve at a higher level.

You’re here to help, and you spend hours working in and on your business.

Then when somebody tells you you’re wrong, questions you on your knowledge, says that they know better, the stomach churns.

Maybe you even feel like you should quit.

Although that doesn’t last too long, but you sit still in a spot when you are hesitating to speak up, show up and really push your message out there.

Steadily growing your business yet still feel like your a fraud?

You’re not the only one, but if you want to hit the next bracket, the hesitation needs to stop.

10 years ago, attempting to connect with parents so I could help their teenagers was so freaking frustrating.

I contracted my social media presence after a while, I didn’t want to talk to parents on the phone anymore and I realise now, that it wasn’t the parents, it wasn’t the people telling me I was wrong, it was me being denied of what lit me up inside and made me feel good.

Photo by Just Name from Pexels

 

This was all my shadow values not being acknowledged.

My knowledge was being dismissed because I didn’t have children (although I had been a teenager, go figure). I was getting negative attention from attempting to serve, people resented me asking to be paid money for a service they decided should be free! (Free doesn’t pay my bills – mums and dads).

My inability to own my own desire from my work, ended up being a part of the reason that the business shut down.

And no one wants to shut their business down.

You want people to recognise your knowledge. You want to get positive attention, to feel good, you have to find a way to own that within yourself.

Does that sound familiar?

Stop looking for external validation and start putting the steps in place to no longer have to worry.

That’s where the gold is, it’s all in you.

This is how you grow your business, take back your life and serve amazing clients.

Transform your inner world and watch your outer world expand.

If you want to know more about my course called Embrace, (the On-Demand programme you can watch in your own time), that explores the shadow side of your values and how to embrace them for your highest good, check it out here: I’m READY TO EMBRACE!

While many are feeling stressed out, I took the time to further work on bringing my body back to ultimate health.

When lockdown started here I was placed into a position of having to move house, my fun casual job was completely gone and I had to decide how I wanted to show up with my business.

In the first few months, I will admit my running and fitness routine kinda dropped off the face of the earth.

In this space I had my old injury decide to come back to the party too and as a result a few, what I’m terming “Covid Kilos” paid me a visit as well.

It would have been easy to write it all off as a sign of the times (especially now as stage four lockdown at the time of writing, only permit an hour of exercise outside of your home a day).

I could have validated everything that was happening to my body quite easily.

Instead, I tuned into my bigger picture for my health.

• Why did I desire to be strong?
• Why did I want to be pain-free?
• Why did I enjoy movement?

And how did having all of this support me in my bigger purpose for living?

Who did I help with being fit and strong and pain-free?

It was in these answers that I was once again, internally motivated to start taking the actions I knew would bring me back to peak performance states. This impacted not only my physical body but my mental wellbeing.

• I now drink my collagen daily to support healthy skin, bones, and muscles.
• I see my physio, chiro, and remedial masseuse consistently.
• I have my wonderful friend do distance healing which also works on my business DNA, which is super cool.
• I purchased a Healy so I can work on my cellular body because vibration and frequency adjustment will mean better sleep (among many other things).

All good right?

Image by Daniel Reche from Pixabay

 

Why do I feel compelled to share this?

Even if you do not have the means to buy collagen drinks, Healys, or book sessions with a hands-on health professional, you can do something today.

And, that’s to decide you are worthy of a healthy and fit body.

That, your reason for being on the planet can inspire you to do whatever you can do in your circumstances, to honour your body for your most inspired future.

That, no matter what the external circumstances, you are in control of your outcomes. Your body is one example of how it shows up for you.

In your sleeping habits. How much TV you watch. What you eat with thought versus a mindless craving.

Some things are out of our control, but you always have the ability to control how you show up.

And if you want to know more about collagen, the Healy, or anything else I’m doing and how it can impact you positively, message me. I am always happy to share what I know and point you in the direction of more information.