Recently I was cleaning kitty litter trays in the back yard and wacked my knee a beauty on the garden bed. As you can see in the photo it was hard and I will admit to cursing in a way a drunken sailor would blush.

The pain may have possessed me for a while…

This was my knee just after it happened.

When we feel pain, such as when we touch a hot stove, sensory receptors in our skin send a message via nerve fibres (A-delta fibres and C fibres) to the spinal cord and brainstem and then onto the brain where the sensation of pain is registered, the information is processed and the pain is perceived.

It’s easy to understand and we know we get past it eventually.

My knee is now able to be knelt upon and while bruised the physical pain has faded.

Much like emotional pain.

Let’s explore what emotional pain is it and why it lingers when there’s no physical damage.

What is emotional pain really?

Psychological pain, mental pain, or emotional pain is an unpleasant feeling of a psychological, non-physical origin.

Or heart break, disappointment, bitterness, regret to name a few examples, for the non-jargon approach.

Feelings that bring up old memories, things that linger and take a long time to fade away.

Living in the past of what you wished had of happened that didn’t. AND T.B.H may not have ended in the way you imaged they could have.

The beautiful thing about pain is that you do get better.

Bruises fade.

Cuts heal.

Bones knit together.

There may be days where the healing can feel worse than the original moment, (like my knee, how’s about those bruises five days later!) but when you allow the process of healing to take its course the emotional hurt subsides.

And just like a broken heart, the shock of not getting what you wanted or words spoken unkindly, while there may be scars, the wounds heal and the pain fades.

And one day, while the memories of the moment may rise up again, the pain will lessen and one day serve to be a reminder, a learning and the hurt no longer remains.

Just like my knee….. (lesson to not walk into garden beds)