The Happiness Technician
I recorded a live video on bringing your A-Game to business. While this was recorded for those in the direct selling industry, it doesn’t matter what your work or business is.
This covers the vision, purpose mindset, energy, and beliefs required to be successful.
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I really opened up to an old friend yesterday and shared with her how I felt that my closest friends from interstate had really forgotten me in this lockdown (her being one of them).
I felt super vulnerable in sharing that with her.
I mean I am the strong one, The Happiness Technician, the one everyone turns to in their times of need.
Surely, I would never feel sad, stressed or a little forgotten?
But, I had been feeling really sad the last week or so, about not hearing from my friends, while watching them go about their non lock down lives (oh hi Mercury retrograde).
I’m usually pretty chilled about it, but at this point I just wasn’t (hello period).
And then I sat with it, and realised what needed to shift with in my self.
The neediness. (Repelling the exact thing I desired, the connection from my old friends).
The control. (Hello shadow value, we can’t control others).
The stubbornness. (It’s not how many times someone has called in
comparison to how many times I have called, you can call them).
So I decided to let it go, and allow my friends to show up as they choose to and as they are. They are living their life and they have things happening.
I decided to be ok with it.
And the freedom in the letting go a miracle happened.
Three of them rang me this week.
Your lesson today is whats YOUR energy is in any situation? What are you allowing vs what are you attempting to force?
The friend I shared this with said she had been thinking of me but thought I’d be so busy, she didn’t want to interrupt me.
What can you lovingly release today?
And, do you have a friend who you think might be busy but might also like to hear from you?
Let them know you’re thinking of them xx
This world doesn’t want you to be happy. While I haven’t watched social dilemma yet, I’ve been around enough to understand that big business trades on pain and insecurity and social media gets more money the longer you’re online.
My most recent experience of this has surprisingly been with zoom. Before I get into my zoom experience, (for those of you that don’t know zoom is a video conferencing service), let’s talk about 2017 when I ran the CEO experience.
This was in part, teaching women to stop treating their businesses like a hobby and start treating them like the income creating machine that they could be.
One section was reviewing our time on social. It was something that I also did in the lead up to understand how much time was being wasted and why.
Snapchat at that time was a problem for me for two reasons. I was spending 16 hours plus a week on non-productive time on Snapchat.
Plus, I was only using photos taken on Snapchat and filtered to make me look younger in my marketing images.
It stopped being fun and about cute little ears and freckles and started to become a severe issue around how I viewed myself and my self-esteem.
So I made the decision to stop filtering my photos and start to really see myself for who I am.
Imagine my surprise when I am on zoom and see in the video filters the new light adjustments which now also take years off your age. Even with the setting dial down it’s still filters.
I’ve also noticed this with my iPhone 11, that the normal photo setting also has a softening effect on your face.
I think it would be interesting if you’ve met people on zoom to see what goes on in their head when they meet you in real life and you don’t look like that.
So how are we supposed to be happy within our own skin with who we are when every piece of technology whether consciously or unconsciously, it is programming us to believe that us on our own is somehow less?
And while I will do what it takes to look after myself, I use high-quality products for inner health and out of health, I still want to be able to see me when I look at an image compared to who I see every day in the mirror.
I even did a course in marketing that taught you on one side, to show up as your authentic self and be unashamedly you but also, heres a section on how to filter your photos?
What??
Do I have I solution to this?
I’m not really sure. I think awareness is definitely a start and cultivating joy from within so what’s being shown on the outer doesn’t create conflict and begins to match, but this is a reminder for all of us social media is not there to make us happy.
So spend time away and make sure you’re spending time cultivating your self-esteem, yourself love and your brilliance. to be able to say I’m feeling good about myself and not just from what you see in an image.
Photos below are me after my shower this morning, me with make up after my shower and my zoom screen shot.
Even though the photo after my shower this morning doesn’t quite match what I saw in the mirror, (thanks iPhone 11) it’s closer.
And yes while I use products to look after my self, I drink my collagen every day for inner health (with the bonus of helping the outer, I’ll be upfront about that), I use the best skin products, I take my vitamins etc, the drive behind it is different to three years ago.
I want total health.
Mental, emotional and physical.
I am no longer about fitting an image of what I think society deems acceptable. So no more flitters (as much as I can avoid them).
And that my friends, is the best place to be. I’ve never felt so happy in my own skin.
It took me time to get here.
I had to unravel the meaning and emotions I had placed on past experiences to allow healing to come through.
And not just forgiveness but appreciation for everything.
TBH I am still working on things that pop up here and there but at 46 I have never felt so good about myself and my life.
I’m still offering partial coaching scholarships for 2020 to help you get to the best space to start 2021.
Ask me how to apply!
It takes a special kind of lady to say she needs help.
You see most women have been raised with the belief that struggle and sacrifice needs to occur to prove worthiness.
That to be the last to receive has meaning for those receive before you. What it does is teach them that you are not worthy of being placed first.
We learn from our mothers, fathers, teachers, the previous generation and things can become so deeply embedded in each generation we can’t see whats in front of us.
We just accept it as what it is, how it has alway been.
I used to think this way too…
I broke myself into thousands of pieces, just to please others and was always left feeling empty and used.
It doesn’t nee to be this way.
You can have a wonderful life for yourself AND for those around you.
There is no either, or here.
You can have both!!
You’ve been friends with me for awhile now.
You’ve seen my ups and downs, heard of my struggles and you have also witnessed how I have overcome them.
I haven’t done it alone and you do not need to either.
Support is the difference between those that reach their dreams and go beyond what they dared hope for…..
……and those who stay small.
If you don’t have dreams and you’re living your dreams, I salute you.
But if you are not and you struggle and you are ready to say you want more.
NOW IS THE TIME!
Olympians become Olympians BECAUSE they have help.
You’re committed, dedicated and now you’re ready for unparalleled support.
I’ve got you. #strong
Book in a call with me to get clarity around how your most magnificent future can become yours.
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We all see those posts on the Internet that say, “do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life”.
The Venn Diagram that says “list what you do on one side, list what you love on the other side and get them to meet in the middle”.
Yay!!
It all sounds fabulous but when you do the list and you attempt to meet in the middle you just can’t take the action to go out do the thing that will make you happy.
What lists fail to explain is that you’re not lazy, doing what you do know or not doing anything new at all really means two things.
So, when you look at these things and go I should do more of that but you find you can’t get off the couch or you’re busy reading lots of self-help books or business books but not taking any action, in your mind your needs are already being met and as the brain wants to keep you safe, it doesn’t let you expand out into new anymore exciting things.
It distracts you.
It keeps you on the couch.
It says, before you go and do things you need to read another book…
Your brain tells you, you don’t actually need to go and do anything else.
So, before you stop beating yourself up and punishing yourself and calling yourself names, understand that you need a values shift not another motivational talk that leaves you feeling pepped up for a few days but doesn’t actually create a lasting change for you.
So, if part of your brain is saying you want more let’s work together to get you where you know you really want to go.
Which is off the couch, taking NEW action and truly living a life you love, not just looking at a diagram thinking I wish.
If you want to talk to me about shifting values and how that will actually create change in your life that lasts, book in a call with me on the link in the comments to discuss.
I am still offering partial coaching scholarships until the end of the year so you have everything to gain and nothing to lose.
It’s totally obligation free and if booking a call feels too much, pop a heart in the comments and I will message you directly.
