Category: Mindset

Hello, Kings and Queens. It is Trudi here and today I have been celebrating turning 48.

I know time and numbers are a man-made construct, but you know what, why not celebrate another year around the sun?

Anyway, Kings and Queens today, I decided I wanted to share some wisdom from 48 years of being on this planet.

The first one I wanted to share was something that a mentor Clinton Swain taught me. celebrating

It was kind of there in all the NLP training and everything that I had previously done as well.

What I Focus On Expands.

Now you may or may not have heard this  little sentiment before.

It is all about how a part of your brain called the reticular activating system, the part  that processes information.

If you’re only focused on one thing, the way that the brain works, you can potentially miss a whole shit ton (that’s the term technical, term shit ton of good stuff.)

When I first got this, I was like, okay, great, I need to focus on moving forward, thinking of  ways to not be focused on the past.

Now, the more that I’ve moved into looking at the metaphysics and the energy of how we live and exist in this universe, it really reminds me to.

Not only just focus on it, but to feel it, to expand into it, to step and grow and to live in the moment of the wish fulfilled.

So the power of our belief before things actually happen and come true are such a real driver for me now behind this whole, what I focus on expands.

I love it when science and spirituality and the mystical and the magical and the logic and everything collide and come together. celebrating

So what I focused on expands was the first one that I really wanted to share.

This was a really big lesson for me to learn that it’s okay to love what you love and who you are.

And whatever lights you up.

Whatever brings you joy, do that express that, let it be a part of your life.Having been in business and around business owners and coaches and marketers over a decade, you are allowed to love the things that you love, enjoy the things that you do make time for them,

No matter how busy you are, make time for the things that you love.

Those are the things that fill your cup and energize you. Also there’s no pressure to take every single thing that you love or you are good at, and attempt to turn it into something that makes money.

That took me a little while to be okay.

Another lesson is to stop feeling like you have to carry the load on your own.

You don’t get brownie points for wearing yourself out, putting yourself in struggle town, feeling like you have to do every single thing yourself to be able to consider yourself a success.

I see a lot of posts out there. celebrating

I saw a post where a man was telling all these women that you can’t be a successful mother and have a career.

You have to choose.

That women are not here to be ambitious, to work and to create income. Women are only good if they’re married and looking after their family.

So if that is for you, if that’s the thing you desire and that you want more than anything in your life, go for it. I’m not detracting from that at all.

What I’ve had to process over time is being okay with the fact that that’s not what I want and being okay with what I do want.

• I wanna be a globally known name.
• I wanna make an impact.
• I wanna support people to just release the shame, the guilt, the judgment that they have on themselves and their lives, and to live an amazing life.

And it’s taken me 48 years, you know, to get to that point where I will wear what I want. I like to feel sexy.

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My next lesson.

Now, this one might be a little bit triggering because I understand that a lot of people are very in love with their religion and their idea of God. I do believe religion is designed to be controlling. celebrating

And I believe that you can love God without a church.

And for me, you know, and this is going back to the end of 2018, I was able to leave my religious trauma behind.

The God wound was healed.

Now you can believe in a traditional God that wants to send you to purgatory or put you in hell if you touch yourself the “incorrect way” Or if you have sex before marriage, this is what I mean about the controlling part that judges you for who you love or any of those kinds of things.

That’s your choice.

I support you to have that choice, but you can also choose to believe in a God that wants you to have every single thing that you desire in your life.

That gives you those thoughts of those desires because intrinsically you are worthy, that wants you to have an abundant life.

If you have a religious wound, if you have trauma around God, one of the biggest gifts you can give yourself (and that I think anyone who has any sort of trauma) can give themselves is clearing the guilt, shame, and judgment.

And if you choose to, to find a different way to view and love and be at peace with your beliefs around God.

You are the one common denominator in your life.

Put yourself first, always. Take responsibility for your choices and your actions.

You see, I never used to really take responsibility, for a long time. celebrating

I just felt life happened to me. And I just got carried along by the wave of that belief. This person did this or it was my fault.

I took a lot of blame for things that were not necessarily things I should have taken the blame for.

You are the one common denominator, so fill up your cup, and look after yourself. Because when you are full and rich and open and receiving, it gives everybody around you permission for themselves to receive and be abundant and be open and be joyful.

You are with yourself. Always give yourself the gift of doing what lights you are. Be aware of what you’re focusing on to heal, any religious trauma that you have, give yourself permission and always take radical responsibility.

Be it the place of cause not effect.

I wanna leave you with this. Not everyone is going to get you. Not everyone is going to believe in you.

They’re not all going to support you.

Learn to be okay with that because when you learn to be okay with that, you’ve learned how to be okay with who you are.

That’s for me an absolute pinnacle, an absolute sign that you’ve really stepped into that space of self love, self leadership.

Self-worth and that full embodiment of ALL of who you are.

You’ve taken those things that people have said that you should be ashamed of.

You’ve polished those things up and you’ve made them your strength, because there’s no judgment anymore.

You’re okay. celebrating

And to those who don’t support you….

Who don’t believe what you believe. Don’t get you. That’s OK, because YOU do.

YOU get you.

When you can say that you are on a powerful pathway forward to your ideal life.

I absolutely value each and every one of you. I love you so much for how you show up and the energy that you embody.

Thanks for the read….

Want to know what shadow of yourself is the pathway to achieving your personal best in life? Take the quiz: http://bit.ly/DiscoverYourShadowValue

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  was recently told that there was a study done that said that 90% of clinical depression in this study was caused by one thing.

And that was conflict of values, which resulted in indecision.

And when that conflict was resolved and the person made clear decisions and had real clarity and real honesty about what it was that they wanted in their life, that would allow them to feel true purpose and fulfillment, 90%, the depression was cleared.

So my question for you today is: if you are feeling a little down,  you have a few options that you’re holding back from making a decision on, and it’s causing you to feel unhappy, maybe you just need to simply decide.

Give yourself permission to be really honest about what it is that you truly desire for your life.

And see if that clears up any of your unhappiness.

Who would’ve thought indecision was the cause of so much unhappiness in the world.

As someone who struggled with her mental health for years, it makes perfect sense to me.

How can you be on a path of purpose and fulfillment if you feel torn between options?

Afraid you may make the wrong choice and always wondering about what could have been?

Self doubt and indecision keeps you stuck in the gap.

Trust the path you chose is the correct path.

You owe yourself the freedom from indecision.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of billionaires, rock stars, actors and entrepreneurs, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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So I wanted to share with you today, the four, four big blocks that are stopping you from being successful.

The first one is lack of clarity, lack of clarity around who you really are and your true vision that you have for your life.

Not a vision that people have told you is for you, one that is truly yours.

One that lights you up.

The second one is internal resistance.

So you have emotional blocks, limiting beliefs, you have conflicted values.

Releasing fear, shame and guilt from who you are and what you ant to create for your life.

Identifying beliefs that are not true and making new decisions about who you truly are.

The third one is self sabotage.

So you have habits that are holding you back automatic habits that you are not even aware of.

For example, when you’re supposed to be doing something, moving you towards your vision. You go and binge watch Netflix instead.

Finding your master habit and supporting habits and linking them into neural pathways to get you results faster.

The fourth one is also having zero accountability.

Not having anyone there to course correct. You guide you, remind you and to support you in moving forward on your vision.

Getting a coach to support you to see what you miss. To align your vision, clear the blocks, aling you to better habits and see what you can’t see in your current reality.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of billionaires, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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Is the life you’re living yours?

Are you still being driven by the past?

I was reflecting today and thinking, am I still living my life at some deep level?

Based on the rules that other people have set for me. Or based on past traumas that hurt so deeply about who I could be and what I could have.

Am I still disallowing myself from being all of who I could be because I’m still operating on a system that just automatically disallows me because unkind people in the past said, no, that’s not for you?

So give yourself permission, give yourself permission every day to go deep, to explore, to pull things apart to go:

• What has made me, who I am today?
• Where does the value that I currently have on myself come from really?

When words  wound  we can change our thoughts and heal.

You are worthy of everything that you desire. And it’s up to us to keep doing the healing work, to keep looking, to keep digging and removing those old thoughts and beliefs that hold us back.

To keep saying no, no, no, no, no! You minimized me and dismissed me when I was a child. You poked fun at me. You were hateful. You were hurtful, but that’s not who I am.

That was never, never who I was.

We’re all meant for greatness. So stop whose life are you living, whose life and give yourself permission for it to be yours.

Give yourself permission every single day.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of millionaires, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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The “tyranny of the or versus the genius of the and” conditioning, will have us believe that we can only have one of something.

That if there are two options placed in front of us, we have to choose. This is the tyranny of the or. You can have that or that, but you can’t have both.

I want to know who said, we can’t have both, where did that initially come from in your life?

Because when we are open to the genius of the and, which is, I can have that and that, or I can do that and that, or I can be that  and that, versus the tyranny of the or, I can only do that or that, we miss out on opportunities.

I want you to ask yourself, where did that belief come from?

Where were you first told that you were limited or where were you shamed for wanting to have more than one thing?

Or to be able to do two things, or to live in a state of abundance?

When potentially those around you were raised under that tyranny, the tyrannical or, you can’t have everything you are being greedy.

I want you to ask, where did that come from?

• Is it a generational thing?
• Is it a societal thing?
• Is it something taught via school or church?

Whatever it is, especially when there is so much abundance out there, how is it impacting your life? 

How would things work for you or show up for you differently, if you embrace the genius of the and?

I can do that and that I can have that and that I can be that and that it even flows more nicely and feels so much nicer to say rather than, oh, I can have all that.

I want you to start really looking at ways for opening up to potential, possibility, abundance and receiving, because you can have that and that.

Next time you feel like you have to put the brakes on something, ask yourself, are you submitting to the tyranny of the or and then open yourself up to the genius of the and.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of billionaires, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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Are you a procrastinator who just really wants to take action on things, but just gets really stuck?

There’s a couple of things that you can look at to shift procrastination into action.

Now, the first thing could be that you’re just overwhelmed.

Whatever it is that you’re wanting to create, achieve, do has an action attached to it that  is just too big.

Now in the coaching world, we call that a chunk. So the chunk is too big.

So the easiest way to avoid procrastination and take action  is to break the task down into smaller chunks, smaller steps, break it all the way back down to the most simplest of steps to take.

For example: you’ve got a big report to write and it just feels way too big, it’s just like, Ugh. Break it down, break it down, break it down.

We want to get it to the most easiest, most simplest action that you can take to get yourself started.

As you reverse engineer it, you want to get down to a step as simple as turning on the computer, sitting at your desk.

Something so small and so easy that your brain goes, “That’s easy. I can do that”

And you’ll notice with that, that all of a sudden, all of the next steps to follow flow a lot easier.

Now, if you’ve broken down the chunk size and you’re still not taking action, and you’re still procrastinating, you’re still feeling overwhelmed, you’d rather be doing anything else than the task at hand: here’s something else to consider.

The task isn’t actually really aligned with who you are.

If it’s not lighting you up, if it’s not aligned to your values, if the task, the action that you wanna take, isn’t tied into something pleasurable, something that you love, something that’s exciting or something that when you take the action has a big reward at the end……

If it’s not aligned with who you are, you’re really gonna struggle to get it done.

So I always suggest, look at your values, the hidden values you shadow values:

• Does it get you attention?
• Does it leave you feeling validated by completing this task?
• Does it give you feelings of control or superiority?
• Does it make you money?
• Does it feed your ambition?

Anything like that?

So break the task. Make it small, really easy, simple to do, align it with who you are and the things you wanna create that feel really good that feed your soul and chances are you’ll notice the procrastination easily becomes action.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of billionaires, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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Are you feeling like you’ve lost out in a space of generosity, but that’s all that you’re focusing on?

Here’s a little tool on how to shift from the focus of loss into the space of gain.

Quite often you give to people, you might work on a project where you’ve been helping people out and you put your things aside.

The project is completed, the favor performed and when it is all done, its done and everyone moves on with their lives.

It’s almost like they got what they needed from you and then forgot about you.

There’s not been what you feel is a great demonstration of appreciation for your actions and support and that’s all you can focus on.

You think about what could have been in your world if you had focused more on that.  You might be focusing on what you’ve lost out on in helping someone else, or  what you might feel that you’ve missed out on.

That’s quite natural.

That’s called being human, but staying in that space lowers your energy, wears you out and stops you from moving forward and really moving into possibility and gain.

You get resentful.

We want to shift into possibility and gain energy thinking process, because it opens more things up for you in your life.

So what do we do?

We start reflecting back on the situations where we felt there was loss or sacrifice or struggle. And we think ultimately, what did I gain from this situation?

And when you stop and you look and you really reflect, there is always something of benefit.

It could be a hard earned lesson, but it’s still a gain.

It could be, there was a financial gain that allowed you to get something that short term has supported you and helped you on your pathway forward.

So wherever it is, you feel there is loss, sacrifice, anything like that: stop and sit in the space of appreciation.

Open up your heart and mind to wisdom. 

• What did you learn?
• What will you not allow to occur again?
• Was there a short or long term gain that you may not have previously realised.
• Did you still gain experience otherwise not able to have been learned?

That will put you back in that energy, in that space show appreciation for whatever it is.

And it could be just the tiniest, tiniest, tiniest little thing.

And that’s okay. Because this is where growth is found. Being able to reflect, back release, gather wisdom and find peace in ANY situation.

Be in a space of appreciation, learn and move on, learn on and grow. Even where there’s the perception of loss. When you look at it with love, appreciation, and with an open heart, you will definitely see the gain.

If you are ready to clear what holds you back and adopt the success patterns of billionaires, book a call in here to find out how to get started: https://trudipavlovsky.as.me/purposeandfulfiment

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Are you facing overwhelm, exhaustion, the real possibility of burnout and breakdown?

Have you considered the power of systems in your life to remove all of the above?

I’ve made no secret that June and July 2022 has seen me with a few challenges in my life.

I let myself get dangerously close to burnout. (right now I’m in bed preparing this article for you so I can rest some more after it’s done)

We strive, do all of the things, then we get tired and we get burned out. (And cranky if you’re like me!)

Why is that?

I believe it happens for this reason: we’re going into overwhelm because we stop following systems and processes in our lives.

We start loading too many things into our day.

We sacrifice rest to get these things done.

We look at everybody else on social media showing us how fabulous their life is and then we start to compare our own lives.

And we get distressed trying to live up to peoples highlight reels, without acknowledging what is potentially going on in the background of their lives.

Can you relate?

So here’s some tips and demonstrations of how a system can make life better.

I had started to hustle.

Adding way too many things on my to do list each day, it was just physically impossible to get all completed.

It left me frustrated and unable to wind down at the end of the day. I had too many things on my mind.

And some of those things didn’t need to be on my mind at all.

I had gotten into “busy for the sake of it” mode.

I wasn’t focusing on the key things, I was focusing on ALL OF THE THINGS!

Details that didn’t matter.

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I stopped following my own system.

So I’m going back to I know what works and I wanna share that with you today.

Five things a day.

Yep that’s it! I put five things a day onto my to-do list and that is all.

• I allocate a set amount of time for each task and when it’s done it’s done.
• I have the satisfaction of completing a to do list which allows my brain to rest at the end of the day knowing everything is done.
• If the task I allocate a time to is longer than 20 minutes I then break down the time into 20 minute chunks for each task until each task is completed. (It’s called a Pomodoro technique. Google it, it’s cool.)

I just wanna remind you that you’re a human being not a human doing.

I’m seeing so many people saying they feel burnt out and exhausted.

And I’m one of them.

So test this out and let me know how you go.

If you have any questions about how to implement a system into your life that will help you achieve your goals, complete tasks AND give you the feeling of satisfaction by getting things done without the overwhelm in the burn out, email me here: trudi@trudipavlovsky.com

Sending you so much love and energy and good vibes for the rest of 2022 and beyond.

I’ve also included below my system for coaching.

Even my coaching has a process to it.

This makes sure the goals are completed, and no one ends up being out frazzled or frustrated in the coaching process.

We work on 4 levels.

• Mind
• Emotion
• Physical
• Metaphysical

It’s the whole human approach.

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Curious?

I have space for new clients to start.

• We will set a starting goal.
• I’ll take you through a system that:
• Removes energy blocks
• Balances your nervous system
• Addresses your hidden value needs
• Creates a powerful life vision
• Sets you up for success.

So if you’re interested in learning about my system for coaching and transforming lives and you know that you’re ready for one-on-one personalize support to get you from where you currently are to where you want to go: email and I’ll send you a link so you can book in a time and we can have a talk.

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There are a lot of untruths about mothers out there. So today I want to talk about the lies told to mothers.

While I’m not a mother, I work with a lot of mothers. One of my friends on Facebook today posted that she had decided that she was going to let her daughter go and leave with a dad.

The daughter wanted to go. And the mother confessed her mental health had been really struggling later lately, so she agreed to let her go.

But she had to put in the comments: please don’t judge me. Please don’t come at me. Please.

Don’t be mean to me about my decision.

The lies told to mothers about motherhood being only able to be lived and experienced in a certain way where mothers have to give up their identity, give up their own mental health for their child.

It’s bullshit. Now we don’t have the communities to help with raising children. Like we used to, those are longer.

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But the myth that motherhood is all encompassing and all sacrificing that has to go.

That myth honestly, perpetuated by a patriarchal system in slaving women into motherhood.

While affording men the comfort to be able to go out, build their careers, build their finances, have a life outside of parenthood, but all the titles of being a dad.

Those systems. We have to start supporting women that those systems are outdated. Otherwise the patriarchy is never going to be bought down. So stop shaming mothers for how they decide best to raise their children.

Mothers won’t have to preface posts with, please don’t judge me, please.

When they sharing that they’ve made a decision for their.

Here’s a pro tip. If you don’t agree with the mother, just scroll on by.

Not everyone has the same values and beliefs as you and that’s okay. Chances are, they might not agree with how you mother!

So ladies and gentlemen, anyone’s watching/reading this: stop shaming mothers.

So then they have to stop apologizing and living in fear of being punished for having to take steps within their own family and for their own mental health, with how they raised their children.

 

I decided to run a FREE masterclass to share things that I know to be important to success and I wish other women knew too. 

To join the Free FB group to watch the masterclass, click here: Things I Wish Women Knew

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Here to remind you, just because somebody’s family, blood relation, sibling, parent, cousin, whoever.

Just because somebody is family does not mean you can’t have boundaries.

If somebody in your family does not allow you the space to be yourself or feel good or being around them. They trigger stress or anxiety, you are under no obligation to put up with that shite, none at all.

Put your boundaries in if you don’t want to be around them.

If there are situations where you feel you need to be in the same room, put in boundaries.

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Explain to other people there, your desire to not have to converse with the individual. If they dont support that, don’t go.

You are under obligation to talk to them, to hang out with them, to smile politely and pretend that everything’s okay just because they’re “family”.

You do what’s best for you in these situations. Even if that means not going.

Always, always, always put yourself first because family doesn’t mean you can’t have boundaries.

Just the thought for the day, my friends.

 

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