Month: August 2020

For those of us who’ve experienced deep trauma, it’s normal that we develop behavior patterns in response to that.

So many times, I overlooked my internal guidance system and ended up inviting more distress into my life. #cellularsetpoint #cellsrequiringfood

I was told once that you often recreate events looking to create different outcomes so you can move forward in life but it doesn’t always work out that way.

Learning that I had the ability to change those patterns, to shift the meaning of the thoughts I had about myself and certain situations was a game-changer for me.

I don’t think I can really make anyone fully understand just how much my life improved.

18 years ago, was the last time my traumas mislead me into thinking I was useless, unlovable and worthless and I didn’t want to be here anymore.

The inner dialogue was ripping my soul apart and I felt like I had no other option.

But I did…

Now you may not be at that point and I wish for you to never be there.

What I do know is that when you open your mind to the possibility of feeling better, things can’t help but start to change around you.

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It’s why I run the “Ditch The Imposter Voice challenge”. (insert link https://bit.ly/ditchimpostervoiceforgood)

You have so much more personal power within you than you might be aware of.

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~ Trudi

It’s important to honour your feelings at this time and it’s important to keep aiming for high vibration.

My goal is to be a leader around helping people manage in times of anxiety of stress, worry.

If you’re high functioning, depressed personality type, I’m here to help and support you.

With everything that’s going on. I’m seeing two kinds of people, either falling apart or the people that are being strong. I consider myself quite a strong person, but I have to be honest with you, with my online friends last night, I had a little cry. I see people’s pain, people’s worry showing up online and I feel it. I have my mother, family, and friends who are immune-compromised.

Right now having limited contact with them, especially now with Victoria in lockdown, and my mother living interstate. It’s quite a stressful situation because you don’t know when you’re going to see them again if you know if you’re going to be healthy to be able to go and see them.

Going into lockdown is obviously the right thing to do, and maintaining social distancing, but it still sucks and it still triggers a lot of anxiety. Not just for me, but I know for a lot of people out there.

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I really wanted to talk about the language we are using in these times. Does lockdown have to be an ongoing struggle?

This was me two nights ago.

I sat out on the back step and I allowed myself to feel the feelings of the situation. I actually quit smoking 10 years ago, and it’s not a habit I’m wanting to take up again. But yesterday, I gave myself permission last night.

And I did actually sit there and I did think to myself, what if everything is not okay? I don’t know if anyone else reading this is feeling the same as well or has had these thoughts, but it’s natural. It is totally okay to think these thoughts. You aren’t expected to be a high vibe all the time. I think you also need to feel whatever it is you need to feel.

But there needs to be a point where you go, Okay, what do I do now?

What is my next step because staying in the space of anxiety, stress, worry or depression doesn’t actually help you create solutions, it sends to even further down into the mud.

There’s a saying, “what I focus on expands”.

And that is so true because if your brain and you are constantly focused on, this is bad, I’m stressed, I’ve got no way out, your brain will only be able to see that for you.

What I’m really wanting to convey in this, It’s okay to feel how you feel. What we need to do though is make sure that we don’t wallow in it and get stuck in it that, we have a way to reset.

I’ve done a lot of studies and a lot of work around this so I was able to pull myself out of it, after giving myself permission to feel all the feelings of feeling quite vulnerable in my situation. But I also knew that I couldn’t stay in this situation. I made some very big decisions. I took some really practical actions today to offset the anxiety because the anxiety was being triggered by the I don’t know what’s going to happen thoughts. Imagining the worst-case scenario thoughts, and I’m pretty sure we’ve all had these thoughts.

Anxiety is the fear of the unknown.

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It’s triggered by the worrying, it’s triggered by the doubt.

So, what to do? Start thinking about what are some really practical tips that I can take in my current situation. Is this you? Do you have a business at the moment that’s not doing so great? What can you innovate in your business to create more income? Are you a renter? What can I do about my cost? Can I go stay with somebody else do, I need to give notice? Can I get in a housemate? Cash flow? Are you hanging onto things that if you stopped, you could release some money and some stress?

I made some really big decisions with COVID kicking in and impacting my own business. And I felt worth sharing. To focus on the belief that I’m going to be okay, that in all of this, I’m going to be okay. For me, it’s my family, my friends, and my clients. They will be supported in this. I will be able to support them. I remind myself that I am a strong woman. I’ve gone through a lot and I’m still here. I have all the evidence in the world to demonstrate that I am a survivor and that I have gotten through this and I will get through everything else that comes along with this.

It may not necessarily come the way that I want it to. But getting stuck on things having to be one way is very limiting. Because then if it can, doesn’t go that way, the anxiety and the stress and everything triggers back in. But the biggest thing is I reminded myself that I’m allowed to be human as well, I’m allowed to have the feelings. I also recognise that sitting in space and wallowing, I gave myself five minutes to have a pity party last night.

Long term, you know, staying in that space doesn’t help, you know, so there’s a spiritual law of cause and effect. I was at the effect the cigarette last night. Everything was happening to me, I had no control, I was disempowered, I stopped, I’ve made bad decisions on what I did with my money, etc, etc, etc.

So, I moved myself back to cause I’m taking radical responsibility for the decisions that I’ve made that have got me into this situation. I’m going to take radical responsibility around creating change and making something different and make sure I’m ascribing to my thoughts the most empowered meaning that I can with my values and my beliefs to everything that is happening around me.

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If you are feeling anxiety, stress, concerning worry and it’s free to do, I really want to encourage you to start thinking of different beliefs and focus on embedding those into your mind over the top of the negative.

I’ll be honest here. If this had happened five years ago, I would be in a completely different emotional state. When we do the work and give ourselves permission to feel and then move forward, it’s super powerful. For those of you that are really struggling under the weight and stress and anxiety of everything that’s happening, I see you there, I feel you. 4

I suggest that you feed your soul right now. If you’re strong enough to go within and do the healing work, do so. It’s a really powerful time for you to transform who you are in here. If that’s too much, dedicate yourself to the things that bring you joy.

Now you have a choice to feel better, and to choose consciously how you want to feel and create your results from a cause, not an effect because your results will be so much more positively impactful on your general wellbeing.

Here we are mid-August, living with uncertainty and in lockdown times for some of us.

Today I want to remind you of something that is super special about YOU!

It’s something that can easily be forgotten, especially when times are stressful and uncertain.

The universe has your back.

You have a wonderful ability to make decisions and choices in every moment of your life.

I know that sometimes it can all seem too much.

After speaking to many people over the last few months I wanted to share a simple set of questions to ask yourself when you feel emotionally triggered. These questions help you regulate your nervous system, calm down, AND have a new point of action to take. The action made purposefully and not impulsively.

They are so simple AND powerful I kept a copy on the phone as a screensaver when I was first using them so I could access them in any situation. (If these questions resonate, I suggest you do the same)

• What is my meaning?
• Where is the feeling?
• How is my breath and body?
• What feeling do I want instead?
• What is the first action I am now taking?

When you talk yourself through these questions, your body automatically responds by relaxing, you get to take back charge of your breathing and you get a simple action step to move you forward. SIMPLES!

Let me know how you progress with using these.

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You are an amazing human, I love you and I am here for you.

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I wanted to talk about what we’re actually doing when we’re buying all of the things when we’re sad, frustrated, bored or not feeling right.

 

We are actually hurting our happiness.

We do live in a very consumer-driven world. (If you haven’t watched century of the self, and you want to learn more about capitalism and how it was very consciously created by governments, I do suggest you jump on YouTube and check that out.)

Stop shopping and start feeling. If you are shopping when you are feeling sad, frustrated, angry, what you’re actually doing is creating spikes in your nervous system.

Now, in the happiness formula, 50% of your happiness is cellular, 40% of your happiness is the conscious choices and actions that you take daily will build your happiness, and buying things is 10% of your happiness.

This tells us two things.

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But what happens if you spike your nervous system and you’ve gone out of what your nervous system considers its sort of regular bandwidth.

To bring you back to balance, to that state of homeostasis, your nervous system will take you from up here and it will drop you down lower than your regular balance point, and then you will come back in balance.

 

You end up feeling worse off than before the shopping!

Shopping isn’t actually the answer because of the spikes you get.

After the buzz is worn off, you’re gonna feel bad, that’s when the guilt kicks in.

• I shouldn’t have bought it, I didn’t really need it.
• Maybe I should return it.
• Maybe I have to hide the fact that I bought another pair of shoes from my husband, or whatever.

So, the joy of the shop gets replaced with the shame and the guilt, and the judgment around the shop.

When you are shopping, there are two things I really want you to be aware of here, when we were looking at our happiness, right?

Are you shopping to feed an emotional need, is there another gap, is this something that you’re blocking, that you’re not looking at that you’re resisting?

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Acknowledging that the shopping replacing a feeling or a need helps you grow, stop the spike and save some money!

We all do it, that’s being human-like I would be lying if I hadn’t told you that I’d gone shopping when I was unhappy to feel better.

But it’s actually our nervous system out sometimes.

The more you push down the block and refuse to acknowledge what’s really going on is like the beach ball under the water.

You push, push, push, and eventually, it’s going to pop out and it’s still going to need to be dealt with anyway. Like feelings!

But if you decide that you’re still going shopping anyway, I want you to think about the spiritual law of circulation, right?

And when you do that shopping, have a bit of a different perspective around it, maybe acknowledge that, yeah, okay. There’s something I’m shopping for, I feel better because of something that’s okay.

But what I’m going to do is, I’m going to use the spiritual law of circulation, and I’m going to acknowledge that by circulating this money out, doing it in a very consciously chosen state of joy, happiness, gratitude, and appreciation.

(Because when you are in a state of gratitude and appreciation, that is the same vibrational, very similar vibration that your cells vibrate at when they are in a state of homeostasis).

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That means you’re going to have less chance of spiking your nervous system, and then getting the shopping crash.

When you do it in a state of appreciation, gratitude, and joy, what you have been energetically putting out will come back to you threefold.

So, the two things with shopping:

• Be very aware of why you’re shopping.

If you are shopping because the things you need, awesome, be grateful for it, be appreciative that you have the money that you can pay for it, that you are getting nice things

• Then keep in mind the spiritual law of circulation, which then when shopping from the right space and the right energy, will allow the vibration of what you’ve invested to come back to you.

Now it may not come back as cash, it may come back as gifts, it may come back as an acknowledgment, this is the beauty of the law of circulation right.

Work with your physical body so your body and nervous system stay chilled.

See the spiritual side, so the law of circulation can take away the guilt from shopping and allow when you do go shopping to be a beautiful joyful moment, or when you choose to put the credit card aside and go, you know what, I actually don’t need that.

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Choose to use that moment as a chance for acknowledgment and healing.

Give shopping the right meaning!

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Join me for Liberate Your Life. This is a joyful, grateful appreciative experience that you’re investing, because when you invest, what you get out of it will return to you in three-fold.

Anyway, to finish up, check-in on how you feeling when spending, be aware of your body response. Be aware of the crash that can come from spending when you’re not in the right state for shopping.

Get yourself into a state of gratitude and appreciation.

Be aware of the law of circulation, invest in Liberate Your Life and come and do more work on me with this. Liberate Your Life is open to all people all humans.

However, you identify, let’s get this stuff sorted, for you, and I will teach you the full happiness formula in there.

Choose your happy, choose your happiness.

 

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I wanted to have a chat about productivity, the pressure to be super productive in these interesting times that we live in, and why it’s okay to chill out a little sometimes as well.

I was reading an article on LinkedIn, and it was talking about how 43% of people who are now working at home, who haven’t had the experience of this before, of feeling huge amounts of pressure to not only be super productive, working from home, but to also be super productive, doing all of the things, taking on board the extra yoga classes online.

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We are living in interesting times and putting extra pressure on yourself too, let’s face it, fitting into the social media world of everybody living their best lockdown lives, isn’t always the best move.

Right now, for many people, that’s the pressure you don’t need on your mental health.

This is where I would really encourage everyone to really start looking at what’s actually going to feel good for you.

If it feels pressured and stressful, chill out.

I didn’t get up and go for a run this morning. I thought I’ll just feed my cats and I’ll get started at my desk.

But I want you to check in with yourself, if all of the things that you’re seeing online, and all of the expectations that you need to be showing up in a certain way.

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If it don’t feel good, don’t do it.

Do what you have to do for your work, obviously, do what feels good for your health both physical, mental and emotional.

That’s actually thriving anyway.

But give yourself a bit of a break.

This is quite a new experience for a lot of people. I’m used to working from home. The really funny thing for me is I’m finding this has actually kicked in a next level of super productivity for me, but that’s me, right?

You can’t judge a life against yours, as we all have different values and beliefs that drive us forward.

You don’t need to live your life based on what I’m doing, and how I’m showing up.

I thought this is a really timely reminder for a lot of people, and so I thought this is the reason why I’m out here first thing in the morning. Haven’t even washed my face haven’t brushed my teeth or anything. This is morning sparkles. I didn’t go for a run this morning. Is that the end of the world – Heck no. Like go for a run this afternoon, probably. But it’s doing what feels good.

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And you know, for me my morning ritual of waking up early and feeding the cats, having some time outside, just meditating and studying my day gently, that feels good for me.

You will find your own rhythms, your own patterns in these times, but, drop the pressure, as long as it feels good and it’s probably a bit too early in the morning for an F bomb.

My motto is if it’s not fun eff it off! If it’s not fun if it feels like hard work and too much pressure if it’s stressing you out, and adding unhappiness to how you feel in your day. Eff it off.

Keep it fun, and rocking your immune system for your mental health, for the people around you.

We need to be feeling good, we need to be showing up well, so ditch the need to be super productive, because of course, as soon as we attach need to things, we repel what we desire and it doesn’t feel good.

Take a load off, don’t worry about what everyone else is doing with social media, and how they are all showing up. (Unless it’s fun for you. Like someone was talking about doing lip-sync battles and things like that. You know, for some people, that’s fun and for some people it isn’t.)

But really take care of yourself and take the pressure off.

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And you know that you can reach out for me if you need help.

If you are feeling stressed or anxious, a little uncertain, or a lot uncertain and you don’t have support in place, I’m able to offer that to you in my group coaching program “Liberate Your Life”.

Check it out here for all the deets. If you know having someone in your corner is what you need and you want to do it low cost/high quality, it’s ready for you.

You can check it out here. Monthly subscription with no lock-in contracts and oodles of loving support to help you live your best life, even in the middle of a pandemic.

I’d love your comments and what your thoughts are. Have you been pushing yourself to be super productive? Have you been treating this as a holiday? Have you run out of quarantine snacks today?

(Hence why I go running most day because I already sit down on my butt enough doing my thing 🤣.)

Got any questions about the membership site? Get in touch: trudi@trudipavlovsky.com

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