Month: December 2020

Does the thought of spending time with the rallies and handing out presents to family give you heart palpitations?

The coming judgement around who spent what and how much effort went into choosing or wrapping the gifts.

Of people criticising what you put (or don’t put) on your plate to eat?

Conversations around who is (or isn’t) with someone, who put on weight, lost weight, missed out on something or took a risk etc

AND it’s even worse when you know YOU’RE the topic of the conversation.

Apart from doing a bottle or two to cope or staying in bed until the festive season is over, here’s my tips to manage social anxiety at Christmas time. (whether at home, out the office crimes zoom event).

Remember it is only words.

What they say, really doesn’t matter in the scheme of things.

It DOES NOT change who you are at the core. A fabulous human doing their best to live their best life.

Remember to breathe.

Weird as it sounds this is the best advice I was given when I confessed to social anxiety.

When under pressure we hold our breathe and that tell our nervous system we are under threat.

Our body the prepares to either fight, freeze or take flight.

Have an out call prepared.

You may or may not have ever done this , when on a first date but it also applies here.

If you’re worked up about an event, as a friend to call you at a reorganised time with a reason for you to leave.

When the friend calls you can then check in on how you feel and decide to leave or stay.

Handy for first dates and definitely handy for a Christmas escape.

And if you cant avoid a situation, say in advance how long you can stay for, and then you can manage your time without potentially having to deal with upset people if you leave suddenly.

Over all I hope you are surrounded by amazing people so this article can be saved for any first date/meeting scenarios instead.

Merry Festive Season, what ever you celebrate!

~ Trudi xx

Also I have decided to run the Vision Board challenge again in first week of January, for those that either missed it or didn’t complete it the first round.

Lets make a Vision Board that works not just a distant furtive or the next 90- days, one that works over the next FIVE YEARS!

Our board will use your brain, emotions, planning and a little bit of magic to charge it up for success.

Register here to access the videos: https://bit.ly/VisionBoardChallengeWDF

We start on the 4th so you can do this with the kids too! What a great thing for school holidays!

Who here has ever set a News Year resolution (or two or three) and then by February you’ve completely dropped it as possible?

I’m raising my hand as I am guilty of that.

I can see now that my goals were waaaay too big, had no logical progression in my mind, and as I had never achieved or lived those outcomes I was actually fighting my own sense of self-preservation unconsciously.

They were NEVER going to happen.

And I used to feel like a failure, so in the end, I stopped setting serious New Years’ resolutions.

In all honesty why wait till the end of the year, became my inner dialogue?

But having said that after a year like 2020 I am ready to put in place actions over the coming five years, that I know to support the bigger vision I have for my life and its impact.

And that’s the key to succeeding when it comes to your big vision, vision, and purpose creation.

Inspired action AND small steps that lead you to your big outcomes.

I know for many, the pressure itself is also a block to action.

So ask yourself who is this goal really for?

Does it serve my best interest?

Am I acting from needing to prove something to others or from a deep desire to call in or create the action/outcome for my life?

And be comfortable with it being in your best interest before anyone else.

Now let’s look at a goal.

If you have a goal of having financial freedom, going straight to 10 million dollars in the bank when you have never had it before, your brain goes into rejection mode.

It feels unsafe, it can’t see how you got there so it sabotages your efforts.

Millionaires who go bankrupt, because they have had millions in the bank before can recover faster because of previous knowledge and experience around large sums of cash.

But do not despair.

If you can image it, you can create it.

Seeing the steps to get you there is as follows:

Believe it to be yours.

Start where you’re at and take steps to get started: $1,000 step to $5,000 step to $20,000 and as the amounts grow for you be open to miracles, money arriving from expected and unexpected sources and then start to quantum leap to the multiple six then seven figures.

And while seeing it, feel it.

Feel the money, the safety, freedom and what ever that financial goal means to you as feeling adds energy.

Sitting and wishing and hoping, is not a strategy.

Only a small percentage of people can manifest big amounts easily at the start.

So why not give yourself every opportunity by using your brain and body to support the beginning of the journey!

~ Trudi xxx

And if you’re keen to add more juice to the vision, join us for the Vision Board Challenge where Ill be taking you through the science, the energy and the process for setting up a vision board to support you to take the steps required towards having all your dreams come true.

Register here: https://bit.ly/VisionBoardChallengeWDF

Give yourself every chance of success for 2021

Anyone else get a little on edge around this time of year?

It’s ok, you are not alone and after the 2020 we’ve experienced I can image the pressure is on in new and interesting ways.

To be able to serve here are some tips for you to prepare for the day and then not only strive but to also ENJOY the day.

In the lead up to Xmas get clear on what you perceive the expectations to be.

💸Buying lots of presents that this year you don’t have the budget for?

👍🏻Having to be nice to that relative who ALWAYS wants to debate (which really means argue) with you about politics, feminism, the reality of existence, how you choose to live your life etc

🍽Eating food types or amounts you don’t normally eat to placate the cook because of all the effort they have gone to, to prepare the meal.

Take some time to list them out then decide – do you have to buy presents for every one?

Do you have to engage in conversations that stress and upset you?

Is speaking up for your preferences something you can do to honour your values?

Boundaries put in place BEFORE the big day to reframe YOUR presences and expectations takes the stress or pressure off before the big day.
When you speak up in the lead up, everyone knows what to expect on the big day.

🎁 Presents
Advise before and what your budget is this year/if you have decided to not purchase at all for certain people – Kris Kringle is that an opportunity instead.

And if people STILL bring you a gift and you have nothing with which to reciprocate, be ok with that. Gift giving is a LOVE LANGUAGE for many people so make sure you so them lots of love and appreciation.

😀 Being nice
Lay the ground rules. Let people know in fun ways in the lead up, what you are happy to discuss or to not discuss when the family comes together.

If someone still brings it up on the day, remind them of your preference and walk away.

🍭 Food
Talk to the cook before the big day. Let them know how much you value their preparation time but also let them know in advance how you want to manage your consumption on the day.

Get them on your side so if you choose to not eat the meat, or to save your food on a smaller size plate to mange your portion control, they can BACK YOU!

They will know it isn’t personal.

They will have the reason and information so you do not need to validate yourself on the day.

How they choose to respond in the conversation before hand and on the day, ultimately is up to them.

How you respond, is then up to you.

Look after yourself on the big day.

Decide what YOUR best outcome is, express it and stick to it.

This time of year is about love and self love and stress management on the day can be manage through the lead up.

I also know that everyone circumstances are different so let me know if you need help with managing anything else.