Month: April 2020

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Are you using money in the bank as the only measurement for your happiness?

There’s lots of people out there who do and you can use it as a measurement for your own happiness if you want.

But as a belief consider this: If you're basing your happiness purely on something external, like having a certain amount of money in the bank, potentially you're missing out on the things going on around you and really experiencing your joy.

It's quite critical to understand that.

If you have a lack of money, being miserable about it and unhappy and punishing yourself or sitting in a space of suffering around that is not going to allow you to be able to easily create more money.

We operate at a set point ourselves, the physical barometer for our happiness, and when we consciously choose to find the joy, we create our own happiness which increases our capacity for more and this includes money. (if you want to learn more about how our body creates our outcome it’s something that I talk about in Alignment. If you're curious, click here to find out more: http://bit.ly/AlignmentGlobalSparkles)

This article was prompted recently by an experience in January.

Now I'm the first person to admit I made some less than good decisions for myself and my business at the end of the year, and this year, and I decided change those decisions that weren't working, and I was really happy about it, I felt really good.

But then somebody involved came and had a go at me for being happy, even though the decisions I had made which prompted her attack, were based on cash flow issue in my business at that time and not about how I felt about myself.

I was told I couldn’t be posting about being happy when I didn’t have loads of spare cash on hand to pay for certain services. (lets be honest, her services)

I was judged and shamed based on what someone else considered a barometer for happiness.

Cash in the bank.

That's really bad. You can be happy without lots of cash in the bank.

Now, we all know having money to do what you want and not having to worry about how you're going to pay a bill or anything like that, feels really good as well.

But some people can still be happy with enough money in the bank to pay their bills. And that's it.

Some people are going to be even happier when they have more money and that's okay.

But regardless of where you are at financially, being able to find joy in every moment, joy and what you do have, be happy with family, friends, be able to laugh at something, when you can learn to be happy like that well that’s a wonderful way to be.

When you are putting out vibrationally happiness, joy, positive energy in what's going on for you in the moment, that's where you create the space to be able to welcome more.

If you're worried and stressed and in low vibration energies such as shame, guilt, stress and anxiety, if you're putting that out there, that's what you receive back.

Of course is, if you have lost everything in a bushfire, or your job due the pandemic, I don't expect you to be running around being joyful about all of the things.

If you can find gratitude in you being alive, that's a great starting point.

I'm talking about your general day to day, find the joy, you're happy.

What I see around the internet, some days, I really just don't want to internet. I want to switch it off and go away.

Let's say there's a lot of judgment and there's a lot of blame. And there's a lot of people pushing beliefs onto other people.

Now, this is my belief here.

You can take it, you can leave it, and I'm really happy to have a discussion about it.

I remind myself of this (to minimise judgement on others)

· Not everybody wants what you want.

· Not everybody has what you have.

· Not everybody was raised the way you were raised.

Some people when it comes to money, you know, they're going to be content with what they have.

Some people are going to want more.

But there are so many other things to be happy about. And the more you can be grateful, calm, joyous in every moment that you live, the more you put that out there, the more you can attract that back.

If somebody says they're feeling good, or they're feeling happy, or they're feeling relieved about something, and you might know something that you believe contrary to that, no need to shame people.

· Let people be happy.

· Let people be happy with what they have.

· Let yourself shine brightly and contribute to other peoples happy too!

Money isn't the only measurement for happiness.

What you believe is a lot of money might not seem like a lot of money to others, or might not seem like enough.

So skip the judgment around that and let people be happy.

Let yourself be happy.

And let's see if we can start really raising the vibration around the planet.

The more happiness we put out, the more we're going to receive back.

If you have been shamed for being happy in the past, let’s leave that there and focus now on sharing more happiness with those around us.

Come and join my FREE FB group https://www.facebook.com/groups/SimplifiedHappiness

And let’s get our happy on together.

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It’s a chilly morning in Australia and today I wanted to talk about stress.

Maybe your stress isn’t because of external factors like work or the kids, but maybe you're stressed because you are not actually honouring your values in your life.

Hey Trudi what’s values? Values are principles and standards of behavior.

They're developed as we are growing up as children.

We know golden values such as trust, respect and love, and if you've been around me for a little while, you'll also know there's the shadow values: attention, belonging, control, superiority, rebelliousness, money, sexuality, validation, superiority and rebelliousness.

This really resonated with me today, this quote that I've shared, and I don't know who it's from. “All stress arises when you depart from the basic virtues and values in which you believe”

So this is why it feels really important for us to stop and examine, are we living our best life?

Are we living life to what we hold true and important?

Or are we attempting to squish ourselves in to a box and conform, are we crushing our own spirit and soul by not honouring our values?

I really wanted to highlight this today. (Sometimes people mix up values and beliefs. Now a belief is an acceptance of something that is true, you don't always have something as true. Proof is not always required, and beliefs can change)

But generally at a core of who we are, our values can be pretty solid.

If you're feeling stressed today, I want you to ask yourself, Am I honoring my values?

Am I living life, respectfully, and I receiving the attention That I desire to make me feel good.

Am I being honest with myself and with those around me today in a way that is productive and helpful?

What's another way I’m I taking control of the things I can control and willingly letting go of the things that I can't control.

I think you know, being happy is really important and sometimes in our day to day we forget to focus on our happiness which includes honouring our values.

We're so busy sacrificing and struggling and minimising ourselves and feel like we have to put everybody else first.

Which puts us under stress that we don’t even know how to identify where its coming from.

Values are actually really important.

Quite often, they just sort of get swept aside in day to day living.

And if this is who you are at the core, like ignoring that part of yourself and denying who you are, of course, that's going to add stress to your body, of course, it's going to detract from your happiness.

Give yourself permission to honour your values today.

Shake off any negative beliefs that you might have about yourself in the process. And make sure part of your day today, if not all of your day, I think all of your day would be better. allowing yourself to be happy.

Let go of the stress and struggle.

Do what’s important to you, golden or shadow.

If you can make time, even if it's 10 or 15 minutes, on your values on who you are, go and do something nice for yourself.

Find a reason to find some happiness. I know there's a lot of grief in the world at the moment with various things that are going on.

But there is no shame for you.

There is no guilt.

There is no judgment around you honouring who you are, and taking a moment to feel into that and feel good.

If you want to know more about purpose and value and finding your happiness and living in your joy Alignment is open for all humans.

We go purpose, identity, values, beliefs, we look at all of the things that are stopping you holding you back ways to just keep moving forward living in the moment and really finding your happy. Register here: http://bit.ly/AlignmentGlobalSparkles

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Today I wanted to talk about the junket that you see thrown around, that mindset is the complete answer to everything that you need to know about feeling good.

Life isn’t working? It’s your mindset.

That’s what you need to work on. That’s all you need. Fix your thinking. Bob’s your uncle, right?

If only it was that simple.

Your mindset isn’t the only indicator and the only part of you that needs to be shifted, and changed for you to live a happy life.

Now, how do I know?

It’s been my personal, well lived experience.

Years of only working on my mindset didn’t really get me to where I wanted to be.

It was only one part of the puzzle, and getting caught up in doing process after process after process held me back unknowingly.

Now I am an NLP master practitioner and I get the whole thing around doing the processes.

At the time it feels like you have completely changed your life but most often it doesn’t stick.

Plus it’s a slow, snail’s pace to feeling good.

You will get wins in the moment.

But you’ll probably find that you snap back to where you were. The improvements only end up being tiny little incremental pieces on the journey.

I’m sorry to tell you but you can’t just think your way to a happier life.

There was a whole heap of other things that need to be worked on shifted, changed, acknowledged, for you to be able to achieve happiness that’s true, deep lasting happiness that carries you through your life.

I spent a good 35 years identifying as depressed and wanting to finish my life or living as a really high functioning depressed human. Which was I’d feel miserable, but I’ll still get up and I’ll go and do my job.

I’d pretend everything’s okay, wear the mask, but inside I was dying, every day with my depression.

What I’ve experienced over the years, that’s really helped me to be able to shift into a better place are:

· Working on things like my physical body

· Understanding how my nervous system works, how my cells work

· Learning about how my brain functions.

One thing that’s critical, is taking yourself out of toxic situations.

Toxic people are attracted to kind energy. There’s something in you they want to drain you dry off, so as soon as you identify that it’s toxic, take yourself out of that environment/situation.

(This also covers work, friendships, relationships)

We have a human need to fit in and be part of something, be part of a group. Its safety driven from the cave days and it feel nice to not be isolated.

But I highly encourage you that if you can identify that the group or person is not supporting you, elevating you, celebrating you, you find a way to get out.

Family and Blood Ties put you into no obligation either.

I have family members that I no longer speak to as it never felt good to be around them.

Blood is no obligation.

Having support to live your best life is a better choice.

When looking at coaching, find out how are the emotional responses getting worked on with the mindset stuff.

There’s a lot of pressure to be able to just change it, deny it, push down block the emotion.

And that’s actually bypassing your healing because unexpressed emotions, like when you hold a ball under the water, imagine a beach ball and you push it down under the water) eventually the ball just explodes out. And exploding emotions aren’t pretty.

Learning to healthfully express your emotions is something that is definitely going to support you to have the life that you want and to live a more genuinely happy, emotionally balanced life.

And with all of these things, you’ve got your mindset, your physical, your environmental, there’s your spiritual side.

I’m a huge, huge supporter of understanding the spiritual laws of nature.

Some people call them the spiritual laws of God, the universe, whatever it is, when you study these spiritual laws, you will see (whether you’re a woowoo spiritual person or you’re heavily science based person) these laws for me and the work that I do really are the strongest foundation for you to be able to consciously choose to have a happy life.

You can attempt to think your way into happiness.

But at the end of the day, when you ritualize all of the things that build happiness, create a daily practice, (and not just I’ve got to think that or I’ve got to think this, I’ve got to say nice things to me, and I’ve got to do a process that neutralizes the energy of my past) you will find you are going to be more primed to take the action to create the life you desire.

And all of this, the mindset, the physical, environmental, the spiritual, the emotional, the ritual will support you in having lasting happiness.

When you act on this, your life can’t help but change.

Where ever you’re starting from, that’s where you starting from, but I highly encourage you to start acting, NOW.

Where ever you’re starting from, that’s where you starting from, but I highly encourage you to start acting, NOW.

And if this feels a bit big and overwhelming, it actually isn’t.

Check out my online programme: Alignment.

Check it out here: http://bit.ly/AlignmentGlobalSparkles

And we’ll set you up with these foundations. Being happy is more than just mindset.

You get access to me for eight weeks, six weeks of content and additional two weeks of group coaching.

So many of the coaches, whether it’s wilful ignorance or just because they don’t know better, they don’t get it, they haven’t lived it.

Come and live your best life.

You can’t just think your way to a happier life. When you take care of all of these other elements, life changes and a heck of a lot quicker than you ever thought possible.

Stop denying yourself the joy of happiness and have your best life.

Let’s get you living your happiest.

All I wish for people is the opportunity to live a better life to live happy. Isn’t that what we all desire?

You tell me.

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We say a lot online that people don't have boundaries or people get hurt because of lack of boundaries.

Now there are the typical ways that people talk about this topic.

It’s all about communication, it's all about knowing your values, discussing things immediately when something happens instead of going away and stewing on what happened.

But what I want to talk about is in the up leveling of boundaries.

It’s creating a space where you're not even allowing in people that trigger off your boundaries or that upset that undermined you and go under what you think is an acceptable level for living.

And as usual, I like to look at things in a non typical way.

I want to look at the energetics of boundaries, and how you can create a space in your world where you don't attract ourselves into it.

I want to talk about identity decisions and certainties that will allow your energy to create a space where those people that want to trigger off your boundaries don't even appear anymore.

How cool would that be?

And that if those people are in your world, they don't upset you, or there's just no issue anymore, because that would be much better than having to constantly focus on implementing and pushing the boundaries and making sure the space is correct.

I want to start with identity.

If you are truly clear on who you are and how you want to show up, that of course is going to show up in your energy and in your vibration, right?

You may have heard me talk about what is for me will find me and what is not for me will fall away.

So energetically, if you're not a match for assholes, it's going to be kind of hard for them to really get into your space and into your world, or to trigger off an emotional response.

It really does start with you, you create your world.

Instead of worrying about communication and putting in rules, let's look within to how you show up.

How are you feeling about yourself?

How are you tied in with your identity, because if you have the identity that you're surrounded by assholes, and that you're never going to be surrounded by people that get you, of course, they're the people that you're calling in.

Because frequency will match.

Let's start with I am the kind of person that is always surrounded by people that love me, get me care for me, that want the best for me and naturally respect me.

In that identity, you then form a decision.

So the next thing is the decision. I'm surrounded by good people.

And the more I focus on this, the more I'm creating in my own world.

For example: I don't get trolled online.

I don't get people coming after me, when where I do sometimes put posts up where I think there's going to be people out here that don't like what I've got to say, but I'm only ever supported in what I'm doing. Because my identity, my vibration and my decision has been made.

And in that decision comes certainty.

So identity, decision and certainty.

I am certain now that everything that I do, brings in the right people, and that in that certainty, I had the confidence to take the action to put up the controversial Facebook Live. It was one where in the past I could have had people coming after me because I actually just one of the most world famous personal development coaches, is a good salesperson and is not actually helping the people that they're claiming to help.

This is the thing. I've set the personal boundaries within me.

It's not relying on anything external.

I am fully at cause so the spiritual law of cause and effect, I am fully at cause with my life.

The occasional hiccup where the odd person here might slip by, but they don't stay around for long.

The better I get at my own identity and showing up with 100% certainty, making the decisions to be loved, adored, supported, and only accepting that in and making that my vibration and my frequency, energetically, I don't have to worry about what's going on with the other people around me, because I'm only attracting the right people.

A little bit of a different way to look at personal boundaries.

This has been on my mind for the last two or three days, and I was figuring out how best to articulate it.

Because if you go on the Google, you know, Google, Dr. Google gives you like seven ways to enforce your personal boundaries.

It's like, No, I don't want to have to push them or enforce them.

I don't want to be looking at the effect of everything around me and responding to other people all the time, especially if they're not in the same space of me, which is elevate the energy and the vibration and the frequency of the whole frickin planet.

I have lofty ambitions, but just think about what's going on with you.

How are you creating?

How are you allowing in, how are you supporting people to come and smash your boundaries?

It does all start with you.

Let's up level now on boundaries.

Let's make a decision and go within.

• Who am I how am I showing up?
• What is my energy?
• What is my purpose? Frequency, what is my identity?
• Do I identify with being surrounded by assholes all the time?
• Or do I now shift my identity and change that?
• What decision do you need to make? And how to implement that level of certainty?

It's a daily practice.

I start with daily gratitudes.

I didn't start with my daily gratitude this morning,.

I was running around doing a few other things, and then I got cranky.

So I'm at cause for that.

I take responsibility.

My identity, vibration and beign at cause for my life, dropped a little bit.

I wasn't fully conscious and making right decisions and acting with a level of certainty.

It does all start with you.

Your inner world is reflected in your outer world.

Let's get those personal boundaries up levelled.

Let's go within and let's make it no longer surrounded by ourselves, because it's the absolute best feeling. I would love your thoughts on that.

If you know someone who's surrounded by assholes who probably needs to read this, tag them in the post, and feel free to share it on your socials.

Peace out everyone.

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