Author: Trudi Pavlovsky

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Do you often hear the term, "you have everything you need inside of you" thrown around?

It used make me a little nuts because I was so invested in looking externally for EVERYTHING I needed.

It’s actually true though! D'oh!

Life teaches us to look externally for approval.

When we small children we get taught we have to check in with our parents. Then we start school and have teachers looking over the shoulders all the time and we have to work hard to earn that gold star right

Guess what? You’re grown-up now.

So if you still find you need external approval, what I want you to starting doing this thing called SELF VALIDATION.

It’s quite simple when you trust into it.

To get you started, I want to go to the mirror, look deeply into your own eyes and say the following OUT LOUD. (Don't worry if anyone at home thinks your nuts, they too will start doing it when they see how its helping you to change your life)

• I believe in you.
• You’ve got this.
• You know what’s right for you.
• Keep going because it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

You might want to put that on a post-it note on the mirror as a reminder to yourself to say it every single day. (And that way anyone else at home can easily do it too)

You might even get to the point where all you need to say as you look deeply into your own eyes full of love, self respect and care is quite simply this: "I love and approve of myself" (you can then give yourself a high five in the mirror and start your day)

You really don’t need everybody else’s approval.

It doesn’t matter what social media says is the in thing or the right way for things to happen.

It also doesn’t matter what your parents used to say or even believe to be true about your life enow.

It doesn’t matter what your friends think about how you live your life (and if they are judging fuckers are they really friends?)

It matters what’s going on inside your own heart.

And that being the case, let’s make it good feelings, self validation and a life happily lived.

Love you!

Hey gorgeous, if you find you need approval from others, your inner voice isn't always on your side and sometimes life feels like your always pushing shit up hill, take the quiz!

Lets see where the inner critic stands in your world and lets starts getting the voice on your side.

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#thispouredoutofmyheartthismorning

A tough year of pain with joy moments scattered in between.

2019 you cracked me open and showed me parts of myself I didn’t want to acknowledge.

You pulled me apart and in the shattered pain I put myself back together.

A newer version.

Fresh and fit, full of a new view of myself.

2019 was supposed to be THE year.

That magical year where everything comes together and everything works. Business, friendships and love.

I day dreamed that 2019 was the year of getting THE ring, and planning a happy forever after.

I could see my business taking off and finally breaking the six figure window.

It didn’t work that way.

I launched my amazing programme Embrace thinking I was facilitating for others but it came along at the right time to also allow me to facilitate myself.

We all know there is no random things in the universe.

I was divinely guided, abet kicking and screaming to face my own shadow and to decide.

Contract or expand.

Face the truth of life, love and the universe.

To be better, to own what I truly desired.

As 2020 starts to peak its cute button nose over the horizon I have stopped fighting.

Resistance is futile when you know, you have always known why you are here.

Behind the scenes I have cried tears of despair and I hit rock bottom. Now I climb back up, but it’s a climb upwards I have taken before so now I own the short cut.

Thank you everyone for being my friend, sending me love, being a client and supporting the work as it grows.

A new programme is about to be birthed and it is the sum of the year 2019. It’s been created with love, tears, belief and honesty.

I am the fittest and strongest I have EVER been mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually.

I have never seen my future with so much clarity and certainty.

I believe in me.

I see you and I believe in you too.

We’ve all got this.

The Universe/God does have our back.

I love you.

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Or why I would tell myself to not get into business….

Today I am sharing a brutally honest opinion as I review my life and the decision to go into business fo myself and contemplate my life if I had of chosen to stay in employment.

When I decided to go the path of setting up a coaching businessI had zero fucking idea on what I really needed to be doing.

I was pumped up win the juice of personal development seminars and the false belief that all I needed to do is tell people how I could help them and boom: clients would rain down out of the sky throwing cash and accolades of brilliance and love at me.

I was super conditioned to be a worker.

Burnout is NEVER a good reason to start a business.

To take a holiday, yes but start a business….. NO FUCKING WAY.

Yet off I went with a smile, enthusiasm and a lot of people telling me I was on the way to change thousands of lives and making loads of cash.

So what didn't work?

I didn't understand:

• What a niche was and why I needed it.
• What marketing was and how it worked.
• The technology was totally foreign to me.
• I still thought like an employee.

Not everyone is cut out for being in business unless they do the inner work first and/or start with a side hustle.

I would go back to myself ten years ago and say "Hey chick, take a holiday before you decide about starting a business.

You can do this but lets keep a part time job because the cash flow for the first five years is not what you're used to as an employee.

Also you need to use discernment on who you work with and be careful of peoples agendas when they are offering support.

You don't have to sacrifice your life for a dream. If it's not working, let it go and start over.

Maybe just do coaching as a side hustle and go back to your job. The security, freedom and peace of mind is worth it."

As you can see, I went all in.

It hurt me long term, so many things suffered.

• Emotional health
• Relationships
• Super annunation
• No holidays

Are just a few things.

Consider a side hustle to get you started.

Make sure youre clear on the big picture and the details of what youre looking to build.

There is no rush to quit your job inspire of what the all in gurus say.

If you decide you're in for a business, get support.

Not just business support but mindset and imposter voice support.

Getting help to become a business owner from the very start of my experience would have made all the difference to my results.

That's why I now do the work I do.

The inner work is critical for your success.

All the systems in the world won't make business fun if you're stressed out of your mind.

Stop the sacrifice and struggle before you begin.

If you choose to begin at all….

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It’s easy to set up a belief system that you can’t do something, because it’s all based on past experience and evidence?

I mean we all "fail" at doing things right?

Usually its the first few times we do something new which really is a false equivalence but still…

It locks in a belief that we CAN'T.

Which limits our confidence going forward.

Our brains are wonderful things and don’t know the difference between real and imagined, which is brilliant for us!

This is where visualisation comes into play.

Take running for example!I had a believe that I couldn’t run and that only my sister sisters got that particular "fitness gene" but then I got curious about what would happen if I decided I could.

One day I decided to see how far I COULD run!

*Please note I’d already been working on my fitness, on my health, eating better food, walking daily, doing more stretches and yoga so my body was already getting fit enough to be able to run.

So I picked the places I wanted to run in before I started running.

I started imagining completing the run in incremental parts.

• Run to the corner of the street.
• Then run two blocks with out stopping.
• Run three blocks but have s stretch rest in the middle. 🤣

Now I can run four blocks non-stop!

It was a great challenge to see what I could achieve using the power of creating a new decision, visualisation and setting myself up with a new habit in my mind.

It's so empowering to make htis change.

If you can do this in one area of your life, you are able to transfer this across ALL Area software your life.

What's the belief that you would like to change?

Think how does it have an impact on your life, business or relationships?

What is the driver behind it, are you moving towards a positive outcome or away from what you don't want?

Are you curious about how to change it?

Do you have a plan?

If it feels like a big change, break it down into smaller steps so it feels easier to start.

I'd love to hear what you're creating.

I work with women to shift beliefs and make big changes in their lives.

If you need help, book a fifteen minute call to ask me to ask how I can help you out.

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*Consult your medical practitioner before starting a strenuous fitness routine, especially when you haven't been doing anything.

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“If it’s not in your subconscious it’s not impacting your manifestation because it’s unknown and has no emotion attached to it”. Esther and Abraham.

Yet the coaching industry teaches you to go looking for "it"

• Uncover the trauma from childhood.
• Reconnect with the bad memories from high school.
• Live once again the fights with your mother that changed your life.
• Reasons for having the imposter voice in your head.

When do we get to a point the past is the past, it is what it is, and we can decide to be happy?

I don’t wanna talk about traumas any more.

If we keep getting pulled back into "it" and keep thinking about "it" and keep talking about "it" we keep mylinating the neural pathway, we keep wiring in the emotion, and we don’t heal.

We keep staying stuck in that energy and emotion and change is harder than it needs to be.

Year in therapy, falling apart over and over, reviewing the bad, wondering why it happened to you and you keep spinning your wheels over something that you can't go back and change.

What if healing only needed to be acceptance of what was, an extrapolation of the lesson and a plan to move forward?

If it’s called personal development why are so many people floundering staying stuck?

I see the fixation of one modality been the best medium for supporting change for clients, which is actually limiting a great coaches of work on all levels.

Different modalities help, yes but there is so much more to be discovered.

If you want to manifest your dream life, stop focusing on your trauma.

Talking about now past issues over and over again makes them more activated: it gives the "it" more energy and you can make it harder to turn it around.

Take a moment and shift how you’re feeling now.

It can be that simple when you keep working to this philosophy and make a decision for it to be so.

You can’t change the circumstances of the past, you can’t change the people, you can’t change the interactions.

What you can do is change your NOW to shift your manifestation.

• The manifestation will shift as fast as your vibration.
• How you feel now is your point of attraction.
• Are your feelings and beliefs and real or now for this moment in time, or have you been programmed?

When I say programmed, I mean by how people tell us we should think, how we should feel, how we should be responding, based on beliefs formed from others past experiences on top of our own.

If the past to present in your now going back and digging into it more in trenches it deeply and more strongly.

I’ve realised after being in the coaching industry for 10 years the real work is to feel differently in the current situation.

It’s that simple.

You can get help to feel differently at the on going back and digging into the energy of the past it doesn’t serve you now but this is what most coaching creates.

We spend hours doing detailed personal change questionnaires, digging in looking for comparisons in past life to current life to future life experiences and looking to match the pain.

Coaching is $1 billion industry, focused on pain.

My question is how did we all get so broken to begin with?

It’s time to stop supporting what you don’t want, stop the critiques and start the self loving.

If you want a hand I'm running a low price mini course to show you how to love the inner voice, get present int he now and shift from unhappy to confident.

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Five years ago I was frustrated, not able to communicate what I needed, had isolated myself and was taking on board things that I really didn’t need to be taking on board.

So what needed to change?

I wanted to have a successful business and feel good.

Everyone around me had an opinion on what I needed to do.

• Go harder in my sales process
• Charge more
• Quit my part time job and go all in on my business
• Work harder

So what did change?

Petal I changed.

I knew that I had to break some ties and go within to change my life.

What’s happening inside reflects all over how the rest of your world shows up.

And you have the power to make a different decision to make and your choice to step out of the pain the frustration to stop isolating yourself and to find a life that fulfills you in all areas

So take time and think about what you really want?

Honestly what do you really want?

What made inside you is actually being ignored? Are you not getting enough attention, do you feel out of control, are you not handling your money well, do you feel like to get a result you have to transform into some control freak, bossy crazy lady?

It’s time to stop the crazy, it’s time to start living well.

It’s time to create a life you love both business and personal.

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Live and in the room at my house!!

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• Mindset strategy
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• Signature systems
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