Month: April 2017

Time To Shine… Yes YOU!

So many people are afraid of being “seen” online and believe it or not I had my own stuff to work through and get past to be where I am today.

Here’s my story, which I shared in a FB group that I am in today.
I think many will relate to my story today.

I didn’t have very many consistent friends in primary school, I would have a friend for awhile an then they would move onto other better friends.

Even in high school I was a fringe dweller. Able to move between groups but usually hanging out with the nerds. (I was runner up in our high school chess tournament in year 9 lol.)

I was the weird one, a mix of pretty, sporty, nerdy, school band and teachers pet but also the one that would surprise people with acts of rebellion.

I read too many books, and my humour was mature as I grew up way to fast due to life experiences, so kids in my class didn’t “get” it or me.

I wrote stories beyond my years and lived most of the time in far away places in my imagination. Books were my friend. They never told me I was anything, they let me just be.

I was super smart and always won awards but these awards, both in primary school and high where always met with hostility from my peers, shaming with comments like “you only got that because you’re poor” or “what’s so special about her?” when I won awards for performance in high school.

For a long time standing out and shining was also connected to shaming, pain and humiliation.

Even in my clubbing days I was disliked because I was a good dancer by the girls and standing out bought me the wrong attentions of the males.

Showing up online was a bigger stretch than I realised at first.

There were fun times like doing videos of lip syncing, and crazy selfies and sharing pictures of my cats.

There was also the negative times of being told to keep my opinion to myself because certain people would get pissed off. Getting trolled and sealioned.

I totally get the fears we may have about showing up and being seen online.

May I add, pushing past that has allowed me to connect with amazing clients I now call friends, to work in a business that I am 100% passionate about and committed to and to not work 80hrs a week for big biz that only cares about profits and doesn’t care about the people making it happen.

It’s been a process to trust mentors again and to trust that there are people out there that do want you to succeed.

Trust… I trust now more than I think I ever had. If you’re stuck with the showing up and moving past whats stopping you, PM me, lets chat.

What A Bad Date Taught Me About Business

I met a guy when I was young and I went on a date with him.

It started out quite well, he was very charming, he picked me up and took me to a very nice restaurant.

He even pulled the chair out for me! Ooh-lala

I’ve always liked simple food and being on a date where you thought it might end with a good night kiss, I was very careful about what I ordered.

Stinky foods, foods that stick in teeth, food that wouldn’t have me looking like a guts hahaha.

But he wasn’t concerned and this is where the bad part of the date began.

I don’t like fish/fishy foods and I don’t like strange textured food. Food that has stong smells, no thanks.

I’ve always been like that so what did he order for entrée?

He ordered garlic prawns!

The BIIIIIIG ones.

I could smell them from across the table, it was so strong.

It was clear to me from that point on, he wasn’t getting a good night kiss.

Then the real bad started…

He offered me a taste.

I knew from the smell I’m wouldn’t enjoy it.

I knew I didn’t like fish, which I told him.

But he insisted.

“One mouthful, come on, if you’ve never had prawns you won’t know until you do”

This was a really nice restaurant by the way.

REALLY nice. Soft lighting, nice décor, room between the tables so you weren’t disturbed but other peoples conversations.

But after he insisted non-stop for five minutes I relented.

BIIIIIG mistake.

The texture alone made me feel like I was in a horror movie. (You know the ones, where they torture people and make them eat each others fingers to survive)

The tatse, which I already knew I would NOT enjoy kicked in my gag reflex uncontrollably.

All I wanted to do was vomit.

There was no way I was going to swallow that!

So I bought my beautiful linen napkin up to my mouth and spat the chewed up bit of prawn (well two chews I think is as far as I got) right on into it.

He was mortified.

I was too busy attempting to not vomit to pay him much attention at first.

After I stopped a dry retching and had a drink my wine, I saw his face and realised this would be our first and last date.

Awkwardly we continued to struggle on through the rest of the meal and I attempted to discreetly hide my napkin.

I couldn’t get out of there fast enough.

The drive home was quiet.

He didn’t walk me to the door. But that was no surprise.

Why am I sharing this?

There’s always a lesson.

Imagine in that moment, it was your potential client in front of you and you kept offering them something they didn’t want.

Eventually they might buy or in this case bite, but eventually you will drive them away.

Take the time to listen to what they are saying.

Yes, we get excited about what we have off on offer, but pay attention to what your client wants.

Sometimes we do know what’s best for them and sometimes they won’t take up on the offer and that’s okay too.

Pay attention and they won’t be asking for refunds (or spit your favourite programme or service back up in front of you, into a refund napkin! Hahahha what a visual right?)

Have you been on a date from hell?

Feel free to share your story.

And your lesson…..?

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