Month: December 2019

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I see you there, you super high achiever.

You were born knowing that YOU'RE THE BEST

Back in primary school you were considered "a natural", a student that was great at all of the things.

Everything was easy, you were the smart kid right? Everyone said you go places.

So much praise and awards for doing well.

Gifted was a word that may have gotten spoken in your presence.

It felt good.

Until it stopped.

High school got harder.

You excelled but not at everything and when you didn't make top grades, you brushed it off as unimportant to the outside world but on the inside you were dying a slow death.

Whats was wrong with you, why was it so hard all of a sudden?

What your parents and teachers didn’t realise what they were doing by telling you how amazing you were, was that they were setting you up for long term stress and pressure.

Because in those moments of telling you how much of a natural you are that was setting you up with a fixed mindset vs a growth mindset of enjoying the process.

You should just automatically know how to do the things.

Because you're a natural.

That everything should be easy for you and now that you’re a grown-up and things aren’t always easy, you have a big problem.

The problem is now your own inner voice.

When things aren’t easy you tell yourself you’re a loser, you’re dumb, everyone else can do this why are you having so much trouble?

Everyone else on the Internet can do it why do I feel like a fraud?

And you keep on pushing and forcing your amazing results.

Because not getting top results is never an option for you. No matter what.

It’s not your fault btw, I grew up this way too.

And when things aren’t easy the stress levels rise.

Sleep falls away and you wake up in the middle of the night mulling over what needs to happen next, why it's not working and wtf are you going to do.

Push Push Push!

You have days where you want to curl up in a ball and go to sleep but you have to keep going because you’re a natural and if anybody knew how you really felt inside the world would fall fucking apart.

This is more common than you think.

What you’re actually missing is the right support to help you through the required mindset shift, to help you thrive.

Mindset work trumps everything.

2020 can be a year of increased results, done easier.

Big loves…. Trudi

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I want to shift a perception and say good bye to shame.

It’s something that's talked about in hushed tones in Facebook groups, rarely mentioned on personal profiles on Facebook, and it’s not something that you see pictures posted about on Instagram….

What am I talking about?

Women who have a business who are also doing other work.

There’s this unspoken shame around someone having a business that isn’t bringing in a full-time income and it seems to be women that have the issue.

Let me explain.

I recently decided to go back and do some promo and modelling work. TBH at 45 the modelling work has been a bit of a nice surprise.

I was feeling super stale in my business.

Even I felt a little bit of shame about looking for additional income activities as my current business felt forced and I wasn’t nailing my offers.

I felt disconnected in it and I was just sitting there staring at the computer doing my own head in.

So instead of getting all stressed about it (and we all know that when you go into the space of forced, push energy you get poor results) I decided to do something else and it was the best decision I made.

Doing the promo work gave me space.

Space to review and look at my business with fresh eyes.

I’d remove the financial pressure of having to force offers out into the world.

I was able to relax into who I am and what I really want to achieve in my life by even having a business.

Sometimes doing promo work, you have lulls and I day dreamed.

About my 2020, what I desired, how it could look and what it all meant to me.

Having a break from your business, having a second job, or you know, not making heaps of cash all of the time, you don’t need to be ashamed about that.

Getting some “fun” extra work that you go and do and then leave behind when your shift is done is just what your brain needs to relax so it can open up creative avenues of thinking.

Also, it allows partners and families to feel secure in cash flow.

They don’t always get what drives us to continue to do our work even in the challenging times.

STOP STRUGGLING TO KEEP YOUR HEAD ABOVE WATER!

I’ve made oodles of cash doing promo and with no surprise at all, I’ve also signed up new coaching clients, and also am designing a quiz for an opt-in for a wonderful ladies business.

Sometimes stepping aside and removing the pressure is exactly what you need to do to be able to regroup and re-plot your success path forward.

There’s never any need to feel ashamed about doing what it takes for you to make money and be happy.

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I’ve previously mentioned I've been doing promo work lately and shopping centres.

I have loved being the elf that looks after Santa as he walks around the shops, or the elf helping kids make Christmas craft!

There’s something I’ve noticed as Christmas gets closer and more fun installations are happening for families to enjoy.

It’s is how much the adults use their children to be able to engage in the fun play activities.

Recently I was at Forest Hill Chase and there were lots of giveaways and fun things set up to celebrate their centre birthday.

The parents, just as much as the kids wanted rainbow sprinkles on the free frozen yogurt.

Their smiles were bigger than their childrens when receiving their serve.

The parents, just as much as the kids enjoyed the free donuts and popcorn.

A few parents gave themselves permission to go all in and have their faces painted but there seems to be an unwritten rule that it’s a no, no.

Why cant an adult have a unicorn on the side of their face?

Who decided kids only?

I really noticed it working on the free solar panel fan stand. The adults wanted the free build kit just as much as the kids.

They wanted to be able to play and have fun but they hesitated to ask.

And when I work with people one of the things I’ve noticed is that everyone gets to a point in life where they stop having fun.

When we re-engage with our sense of play and out childlike wonder at the world life shifts.

Our creativity and imagination re-engages and energy levels lift.

It’s no secret this year not 2019 my personal life was a mess a mess.

It reflected in my results across the board.

And talking to a mentor about the last couple of years he said to me it’s no wonder your ex doesn’t want to work things out you’re no fun.

It was confronting to hear but I had to except the truth.

My mentor, having known me for 10 years had seen me go from fun and excited and playful about my business to somebody who was so serious and focused on her personal and professional development there was no play and fun and excitement left in her life.

She got serious and boring!

Does this sound like you?

Super stressed all the time, always worried about what could possibly happen even when the chances of it happening a really slim…

Always tired and working non-stop, due to worry an opportunity might get missed if you don’t?

I don’t care where you’re at in your business: startup, six figures, seven figures…… just STOP WHAT YOURE DOING.

Put down the marketing piece that you’re working on or the business plan or the worry about where your next client is coming from or how are you going to pay the next lot of bills.

Go and be playful.

If you have kids go and grab their toys and play like a child.

Play Barbies, get the racing cars out race them around the house, go and blow bubbles: just DO SOMETHING to get out of your consequence biased, grown-up, adult worried mind.

Go play have fun remember who you were before you lifted the weight of the world on your shoulders.

You were born to live, not to die a slow death in every moment.

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I think we all know that we get taught behavior as children and it forms how we behave in our adult life.

Childhood is all about foundations for life, right.

Parents, teachers, peers and pop culture all play a part.

Often not a great, part due to being limited by their own unhealed wounds and trauma history and rules and regulations that haven’t been updated since the 50s.

The pop culture part isn’t always bad, I was lucky and I got the emergence of women super heroes in the late 70s and early 80s for my influence.

I do love Princess Leia, Bionic Woman and She-Ra. (the new She-Ra series on Netflix is pretty cute)

But the problem with my up bringing that even with those amazing super hero role models we are competing with install values from people with more influence in our lives.

And this means the behaviours and responses we have go deep.

There's stress that comes with going against what we consider our nature (but the nature for many of us has come from nurture and isn't who we truly are)

We are reflections of family values and what was happening around us at the time.

Let me know if this resonates, the intention can be to push back but the resistance can make it a challenge.

Even as we age it's still here and can show up as destructive rebelliousness when we finally break.

I know for many women I speak to there is a yearning to step up and not play by the good girl rules.

Yet they don't because it feels uncertain and risky.

But what if good girls did instead?

· Took up space.

· Spoke loudly and excited about what they are passionate about.

· Didn’t wait to be asked but put their hands up and claimed what they desired.

What if all that conditioning of sit down, don’t ask, be quiet, be polite, be nice: didn’t exist?

What would happen if we had more women stepping up and saying fuck you that’s enough?

Taking over governments, changing the rules, protesting and marching harder for what good girls are told is not for them, stopping the shitty behavior that’s been instilled by the patriarchy, what if the good girls did all of that?

Would they still be good girls?

And the answer to that is a resounding YES!

Ladies, it is time for us to let go of what childhood mis-taught us.

The first being that we are girls!

And we are still trapped by the mindset, values and beliefs that out-dated times and generations showed us as the truth.

It starts with a simple decision to make.

We can be great women, be good and be good at it without any fear, shame guilt or judgement.

Judgement is so last year.

I know the internal struggle that we can face in changing our lives. We have been told that to be good we must sacrifice, suffer and martyr ourselves but it’s a lie.

Conditioning is not a permanent condition.

Lets stop being good girls and be happy and empowered women instead.

What’s a good girl rule you can break today?

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I was listening to Esther Williams talk about how anything in your subconscious can’t impact your manifestation because you have not consciously attached any energy to it.

And, of course that got me thinking…. Because chronic over thinker and analyzer here! 🤣😜

Having studied coaching for 10 years I see so much of it is about digging.

Digging up past hurts, past wounds, old traumas and exploring them. We are shown how to peek at them, then scratch at them like a healing scab, being encouraged to remember things from a long-forgotten childhood.

And after ten plus years of going hunting and digging for my own healing I have realised that most of the digging and scratching we do: WE DON’T NEED TO.

The digging allows the business of coaching to thrive.

If we need to do a lot of digging, that takes time. That’s a twelve month coaching package right there.

And it sets up a belief in the clients mind that it will take at least that long for the client to be “better”

Over coaching is a thing.

There I said it.

Why do we feel we have to poke things, scratch things, dig things up, when, if it’s buried deep, it isn’t actually impacting our lives in the way that coaching can portray it to do so?

What if we decided to work with ourselves in ways that allowed us to re-programme from this point in time and move forward that way?

What if we don’t actually have to suffer?

When I first got involved in coaching there was quick wins in NLP that seem to unravel pretty quickly 90% of the time or you could go to counseling and do talk therapy but never really walk out with any solutions or really empowering actions to take to move forward

Everyone’s modality is touted as the final healing thing you will ever need but I haven’t found that to be the case.

After 10 years in the coaching industry and studying numerous modalities and science and spiritual and all of the things for healing I’ve come to the conclusion that the biggest thing that stops people from healing quickly is their belief that it can be fast.

That it can be done without spending years on it.

It’s the biggest myth of the coaching industry.

I’ve worked with people with depression and six months they’re good but for me it took 20 years? Go figure

Why do we spend so many years in pain?

I often ask myself where did I develop the belief or even the need to suffer and to sacrifice to feel I had to earn my abundance and happiness in life?

I’ve worked with coaches who have done quantum leaping and while I think too big a leap doesn’t work for our brains and physiology, a lot of the time understanding how our brain and shifting the imagery in our head is definitely the first, most powerful step we can use in our healing process

So how quick can you heal from your past?

How long is a piece of string?

You have the ability to not only heal from your past but to get to a point where it doesn’t even become a point.

We can decide that the past is that. We can live in each moment and create in our future from TODAY!

To somebody who spent more than 3/4 of her life unhappy this is the best outcome for me.

I choose a happy future and I choose a happy life

We don’t need to relive past traumas and we can decide in this moment to trust we are whole as we are, we are perfect children of God, we are always supported and when we step into cause for our life we can create a life that is wildly beautiful and abundant?

AND IT ALL STARTS IN THIS NOW?

How would you show up differently today?

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If you’re always thinking about what has gone wrong or what could go wrong, how can anything go right?

10 years ago, when I got into business I was freaking excited.

I was willing to give things ago.

I had this belief that was so strong in my work I ran out of joyfully to take actions and do all of the things.

I cold called and didn’t get despondent when I was rejected.

I spoke for free at networking events and even if I didn’t get a sign up I knew people were paying attention and I was pleased with that.

I had unshakable faith for a while there….

But then people started to give me all the reasons why building the business I wanted to would be hard.

Why couldn’t work.

Why I had to implement strategies that made me uncomfortable and in the end, took away my excitement for what I was doing.

Judgement kicked in because the business wasn’t making 10k a month in the first six months.

Guilt happened because my partner had moved his life interstate to work with me in the business, and he had sacrificed in doing so. (And he didn’t come this far to not be making any money.)

As I was the one on the phones making the sales calls I felt like I was useless and a disappointment.

This thing called business and living the dream, it got hard.

The first business shut down after five years of hard slog.

I had a mini break down but had no space to recoup from the health issues I suffered, because I had to make money.

The relationship with my partner was over.

I was in a hole and I took all the hole stuff with me to the next business.

Patterns repeated because I didn’t understand how my energy and focus was really impacting my results.

I had replaced my naïve and unshakable faith with fear and worry.

After 10 years of businessing and chasing the solutions to making business work, this is what I’ve realised.

Always thinking about consequences fucks you up.

Today I’m using business as an example, but what about in other areas of life?

Have you ever thought about going skydiving but then thought about the risk with the chute not opening?

Have you remembered as a child how you used to go roller skating and thought it would be fun to do it again……

but then thought about the chance of falling and breaking a bone and decided to leave the skating as a memory?

Have you ever thought about approaching that cute person on the tram to ask them for a coffee, but then had to face the reality of a potential rejection so you didn’t?

Let’s be straight up.

If you are focused on the risk, you give it more chance of the risk event happening than staying in a state of joy and doing the thing.

If you worry all the time, you get into a rut.

You slowly die but might live ‘til you’re eighty.

What kind of life is that?

What if we daily took an action that included taking a chance, or doing something you feel stretched by and begin to see how by releasing the focus on only the consequence you actually return to bliss?

Of course, you acknowledge the risk in things, then put things in place to minimise the risk and then focus on the positive, fun outcome.

Book a skydive and go tandem so you don’t have to pull the cord. (It’s so much fun)

Go skating and wear a helmet, knee pads and wrist guards. Start slowly but go and get your wheels on.

Approach the person and offer them the chance of saying yes, and be prepared to move on if they don’t. You’ll never meet the love of your life if you don’t put yourself out there and there was a reason you noticed them in the first place.

Energy doesn’t lie right?

As we get older we unconsciously risk mitigate everything and, in the process, rob ourselves of spontaneity.

We forget how to have fun.

And who knows what other opportunities will show themselves in the moments when we let ourselves truly be?

Love Trudi AKA Global Sparkles

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